Finding a lasting love in this modern world is very difficult and each one of us strives to find that kind of love.
We all want someone who is our best friend, someone with whom we can share our hopes and dreams, someone we can build a life with. Nevertheless, many women find it very difficult to find and maintain a lasting love.
I’ve talked to many women in a healthy relationship for the past few years and I’ve realized that most of them have the following 5 qualities and I want to share them with you.
1. You know yourself
Women who are in healthy relationships know themselves. When I say that, I mean that they know all their qualities very well.
They know their strengths and weaknesses, which means that they have dealt with their past. They are very good at recognizing their limitations and are willing to seek help if they know they need it.
Women who have found lasting love know what they want. They know what kind of man they want, what kind of qualities they must have and what kind of man will make the most of them. They have made it their mission to find this man and give their all to do it.
If you are a woman who does not know who she is and who does not have a clear idea of what she wants in her life, then it will be hard for you to find and sustain a lasting love.
2. They do not take things personally
I know many women who take everything that happens in the world to heart. That is, they have low self-esteem. Everything that happens around them is filtered by their self-perception.
I have a friend who does that very often. Her husband did not want to help his mother clean the room and my client’s reaction was that she would be really angry if her husband did not help her clean the room.
Another acquaintance, on the other hand, was angry because her husband did not do what he promised to do, which meant that he did not love her.
Women who take everything personally have a lack of self-confidence. They look at life through their own personal lens, which does not allow them to let a man into their hearts and love him the way he is.
They condemn their partner for their actions and do not believe that he can love them as they are. They do not like seeing their reflection because they do not love that person at all. And how can you expect a man to like you if you do not like yourself?
So do not take things personally. Understand that your partner’s thoughts and actions are independent of you. Try to love more so that the person you are with can love you too.
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3. You are flexible
Women who have found lasting love are flexible. They are ready to adapt to whatever comes their way. As a result, they are also able to overcome any problem that comes their way.
I have a friend who has a very insecure mindset. If her relationship does not go the way she imagines, then she immediately becomes suspicious. In the process of trying to put the relationship back in order, she often becomes cautious. If she were only willing to look at all sides of the relationship, she might be able to turn that relationship into something healthy that works for both partners.
Another friend, on the other hand, gets completely overwhelmed when things do not go the way she wants and just can not handle them. She does not like the idea that something has to go in a different direction and that’s why she’s pulling back. And when that happens, their relationship fails.
So, try to go through life flexibly. Expect and accept that your relationship will not always work the way you imagine. Only then will you understand what a true relationship means.
4. You have a sense of humor
Life can be very difficult and women who are in healthy relationships can laugh about how hard it can be.
Think of the days when everything goes wrong. Your husband is moody in the morning because he will be late for work. Your plans to meet for lunch are canceled because he has meetings. Forgetting that you want to go shopping together and go drinking with his friends after work. That’s why he comes home later when he said it.
When this happens, you have two options. Either you can collapse in despair, drink 3 glasses of wine and yell at your husband. Or you can see it loose, realize how crazy life is and walk with your dog to forget everything.
If you can just ignore things, if you can see that life is difficult and accept it with grace and humor, you are more likely to find lasting love.
5. They never give up
The key to finding and sustaining lasting love is determination. You should be determined to succeed, to get what you want and not to let anything get in the way.
I have a friend whose husband she left a few years ago for another woman. This was completely unexpected and she was devastated. It took some time for her to get back on her feet, but when she did, she did so enthusiastically.
She took the time to find out what she expected of life and started following her goal. She started her own business and worked hard to make it a success. She moved to a big city because she knew that it would give her the opportunities she was looking for. And she made a list of the types of men she was looking for.
6 years later she has a successful business and has found the man of her dreams. On her way to success, many things got in her way, but she never gave up. And she got what she wanted.
So if lasting love is what you seek, then do it. Follow your goal and do not lose sight of it, no matter what gets in your way.
There is no reason why women should have trouble finding lasting love.
Women have left men in relationships for too long, with their “femininity” preventing them from actively pursuing what they want.
I would say that the things that make us women, the self-confidence, the determination, the flexibility, the sense of humor and the personality traits that we inherently possess give us all the resources we need to love we are looking for.
So, go out there, be a confident woman and find your partner. You can do it! I promise you.