I don’t need you to fix me, so stop trying!
Can’t you see that I am not a hot mess but a beautiful disaster? I like the way I am and I don’t need your advice. I just need a man who will listen to me when I am down. I need you to be a shoulder I will cry my heart out on when I feel less valuable. I need you to accept all my imperfections just like I accepted yours.
Remember that you fell in love with all of them because in some strange way they make me perfect.
I know there will be times when I will be so desperate and will call you to rescue me but please don’t come. That’s not me who is calling you. It is just a scared girl inside of me who doesn’t know how strong she is. Let me fall and please, let me get up by myself. I know I will be broken to pieces but don’t try to put me together. That’s my life’s mission and if I don’t do it now, I will never learn to pick myself up and fight. So, please stop.
I know I am a mess and it is difficult to live with me while I am fighting the battle of my life.
But I also know that you are strong enough to go through all this with me, hand in hand, like my soulmate. I just want you to know that after every single battle I will be drained, so please bear with me and be my safe harbor. Be the man who will tell me that everything is going to be okay and that this is just a life phase. The one I need to go through to become stronger. And when you see me like that, don’t try to fix me, because if you try it is going to be even worse. And the last thing I want to experience is watching you dealing with my problems. I need to fight with these demons inside of me and I won’t be the old me until I show them who the real bad is here. I need you to know that it takes time for everything, so please be with me and give me your support. That’s all that I want from you.
I am not perfect and I probably never will be.
I just need you to accept me and love me the way I am. And if I ever get better and shake these problems off, I will be so grateful to you for giving me your hand of salvation when I most needed it.
So, if you will accept me just the way I am, I will save you a seat in my future so that you can be a part of my journey.
And if I ever forget my own pride and ask for your help, just remember that deep down I really don’t want you to fix me. I just need you to love me while I fix myself.
THIS REASON I DON’T NEED YOU TO FIX ME
“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”—Marilyn Monroe
I’m not your project. I can never be your little doll. I’m not perfect, I know. I can be wild, free-spirited and hard to handle at times. But, I don’t want you to fix me. You can’t put me in a box.
Don’t you think we all deserve someone who will love us without pushing us to change?
Don’t you think we all deserve to be accepted as we are and for who we are?
I am tired of people telling me what’s best for me. No, that’s not how you help me. Not at all.
You don’t need me. You just need me to need you. You want me to depend on your good decisions I should follow. But look, I’m better than that—even at my worst.
I don’t want you to fix me because I’m not broken. Yes, I’ve had bad experiences in the past. Yes, I was cheated on, betrayed, weak, hurt and heartbroken before. But, I’m not your project. I need to make myself better, because that’s the only way I can heal myself from everything bad that has ever happened to me. I need to be brave and strong. Actually, I am brave. I am courageous. And you need to stop making me feel weak.
I don’t want you to fix me because you need to fix yourself first. I don’t allow you to fix me because the ones who wanted to do that were most often the ones who actually broke me.
I don’t want you to fix me; I want you to love me. I want you to embrace me despite all the flaws I have. I want you to hug me, not to scold me. I’m already too harsh on me. I have been fighting with low self-esteem since I was a little girl. Please, don’t make it worse.
I don’t need you to judge me. I need a man who will always point out my strengths, not the guy who is always ready to preach and give me lessons about my weaknesses.
Don’t think you can turn me into a tame, good girl. I am the one who decided to go with the flow and accept her dark side as well as her bright side. I’m stubborn and too strict sometimes. But you must believe me—I’m already working on myself. I need to be my own savior.
I don’t like ultimatums. I don’t like preachers. I hope you can have me by your side just like this, and love me for who I am. Only like that we can make it work. Only as a team, as two equal people standing next to each other.
Love me or let me go, but don’t try to fix me.