Knowing how to play hard to get is a science. You can’t just learn that overnight because it needs a lot of time and a lot of ‘victims’ to be a master of this discipline. There are women who play hard to get, but they do it brutally by disrespecting any man who comes close, and in doing so, they lose them.
But on the other hand, there are women who know the right amount of being a b*tch and acting distant and flirting with a guy, so they can get what they want. Some of them only want a one-night-stand while others want a long-term relationship.
But no matter what their desire is, there are some strict rules every woman needs to follow if she wants to get the guy she likes. So stay tuned!
1. Tell him that you are busy but that he can buy you dinner
This is a strategy that always works. You are sending him a message that you won’t be available just when he wants but rather when you decide.
You will look like a girl who is hard to get but yet giving him hope that something might happen between the two of you. And while he will be waiting for you, he will be super-excited, and he will want to impress you the best he can.
By doing something like this, you will have his heart, and you will be able to do whatever you want with it. Just make sure that you don’t play with his emotions because you wouldn’t want someone to play with yours either.
2. Whisper something in his ear, but don’t touch him
This is a deadly move,so you better watch how you do it. He will feel that you are close enough to touch, but he will still know that he can’t do that without your permission.
While you are whispering something into his ear, be close enough with your lips, so it looks like you will lick him, but don’t do it. It will drive him crazy, and he will fall madly in love with you.
He won’t be able to believe that he was so lucky to meet a girl like you. And because of that, he will do anything to win you over, and it won’t be a problem for him to go the extra mile for you.
3. Don’t answer his texts right away
If you answer his texts right away, he will think that you are always available for him and that he can reach you at any time. He will believe that you are sitting at your place and staring at the empty screen, and that is not how you will get a guy for sure.
Instead, leave him waiting a little bit. In this way, you will create some tension, and he will know that he needs to put in some extra effort if he wants to win you over.
After an hour or two, you can text him back, saying that you didn’t see his message and that it was nice of him to reach out. This is a hot and cold game, so be smart about how you play it. The last thing you want is a guy who gives up on you.
4. Don’t reveal everything about your life
There is an old saying: ‘A woman without secrets is like a sky without stars’!
That means it won’t be interesting to him if you tell him your life story immediately. Wait until you get to know him better to tell him some important things. In the beginning, you can just tell him ordinary things that everyone knows, like your hobbies and about your job.
Also, to avoid being boring, you can ask him something about the things he likes to do in his spare time. If he is to be a part of your life, he needs to earn his place there, so wait until the right moment to reveal your darkest secrets to him.
5. Don’t tell him how you feel, but show some interest
Even if you think he is the man of your dreams, don’t tell him that right away. Instead, just smile and flirt with him, so he sees that he has a chance with you. You need to play hard to get with a guy that you like, and this is one of the best strategies.
If you reveal everything about yourself and the way you are attracted to him, he will lose interest. But if you show just a little bit of interest, he will want to chase you, and in the end, that is what you want, right?
6. Tell him something about your night out with the girls, but don’t reveal everything
He doesn’t need to know how many friends you have or exactly what you did last night. You can be witty, and tell him a story that is better than what really happened. Because of this, he will think that you are a very popular girl and that he is lucky to know you.
Also, he will think that only an amazing guy can have you, and he will work hard to satisfy all your wishes. It won’t be difficult for him to make your dreams come true because he will think that you are worthy enough.
And you know what? You are worthy just the way you are! You are just helping him to actually see that.
7. Mention that you have male friends, but explain that they are just friends
Tell him that you have male friends and that you often go out with them. Just make it clear that they are just friends with you and that you don’t want to have friends with benefits. Give him a chance to see that you are single and that he has a chance with you.
That will boost his ego because he will think that you are still available, and he will do anything to be with you. In fact, if he sees other guys around you, even though they are just friends, he can get a little bit upset and start working better to win you over.
So, be ready for a dozen red roses in front of your door early in the morning and cute notes on your desk while you are in the office. You just made him want to kill to be your boyfriend.
8. Don’t go to bed with him, just give him a kiss
And when I say kiss, I mean a kiss that will turn him on so badly that he will beg for another one. If you can’t stand it anymore and you want to sleep with him, one make-out session will probably satisfy you.
The worst thing that you can do is to go to bed with him right away. If you do that, he will think that you are an easy girl and that any man can have you. That is a very bad reputation, and once you get it, it is very difficult to get rid of.
Instead, keep him on fire, and tease him whenever you can. It will make him lose his mind about you, and you will be his most important and only obsession. Be smart and postpone s*x. No problem, you will thank me later!
9. Don’t be clingy, but appreciate his efforts
There is something all guys hate and that is a clingy girlfriend. If you act all needy and clingy, he will soon tire of you, and he will find a strong and independent woman instead.
So, to actually get him, you need to act like a strong woman with a lot of self-esteem. Show him that you already have a great life without him and that you don’t need a guy to be happy. Show him that you don’t need a man to complete you because you are already whole.
If you do this, he will go crazy for you, and he will fall so hard for you that he will do anything you wish.
10. Don’t rush into a relationship right away but give him hope
You should let him know that you feel good in your own skin and that you are not in a hurry to commit to someone. He should know that you are happy just the way you are and that he needs to go the extra mile to win you over.
He needs to know that you are looking for someone special to take away your freedom and to settle down with you. Because if you say ‘yes’ to everything he says and let him decide about you, he will get bored with you sooner than you thought.
Show him that you are a high-quality woman and that you need more than a six-pack and a cute face to settle down. Only then will he do anything that needs to be done for you to have a special man next to you, who will treat you like you deserve.
11. Show him your confidence
Confident women are so hot. Period. If you want to get a guy, you should know that being confident can really help you in that mission. If you show him that you are confident and that you feel great in your own skin, he will want you even more.
In fact, he can be so intimidated by you since you will come off as a strong and independent woman. If he wants to make you feel jealous and you remain cold as if nothing happened, he will see that you don’t sweat the small stuff.
Also, you will feel better and he will pursue you even more. He will use all means necessary to win you over, and he will make some effort for you. In the end, that is what counts the most, right?
12. Show him that you have a fulfilled life without a man in it
If you show the guy who is interested in you that you are not clingy and that you are completely satisfied with your own life, he will want you even more. By playing hard to get with a guy, you are doing yourself a favor.
The catch is that he needs to see that you can have fun without him and that you really don’t need him to be happy. By acting satisfied when he is around, you are sending a message that you are great on your own and that he will have to work hard to earn you.