If you’re an average looking guy desiring hot, beautiful women but at the same time thinking that they’re way out of your league and that you’ll never be able to attract one (even if you won the lottery), then it’s time to change that and convince you of the opposite!
We all know the drill. A hot, attractive guy approaches a hot girl in a bar. He makes her laugh real hard, and she gives him her number in the time span of approximately five minutes.
From the look on her face, it’s evident that she’s really enjoying this hot guy’s company and that he left a good impression.
Now, as you’re observing this scenery as an average looking guy from a corner, you get convinced that average men could never do the same thing and succeed as that good looking guy just did.
You get convinced that beautiful, attractive girls only fall for handsome men with trending haircuts, Brad Pitt’s facial features, and Ryan Gosling’s charisma.
(Well, maybe in movies, but this is real life.)
Summarized, you get convinced that average looking men’s attempts with hot women are doomed.
Well, a lot of guys like you share the same opinion, and you have no idea how wrong you are!
It’s true that attractive people (in this case attractive men) have always had higher chances of hooking up with hot women, but this doesn’t mean that an average guy like you doesn’t stand a chance.
And do you know why?
Because you’ve got it all wrong!
Attractive women don’t fall for handsome men just because of their looks. Of course, looks helps, but what really makes hot women fall for them is their SELF-CONFIDENCE.
Yes, I put it in upper case letters and bold just to make sure that everyone of you read it and recognized the importance of this one truly powerful word.
Of course, there are many other things like a sense of humor that are also important when it comes to attracting beautiful women, but the bottom line is that everything stems from your self-confidence!
It is the base of every successful hook-up that you have been witnessing so far in bars, clubs, on the street, etc.
Women want to see that a man knows what he wants, that he’s confident in what he’s doing, that he’s passionate about something, that he has interesting things going on in his life, that he has manners and so on.
And, as you may have noticed, all of this has absolutely nothing to do with how a guy looks.
It doesn’t matter if you’re an extrovert, introvert, handsome guy, average looking guy or what’s considered a normal guy—when in a bar (or somewhere else), you all have an equal chance of winning that gorgeous woman and the only thing you need to do is BELIEVE that it is so!
Confident men believe it, and that’s why they always seem to be one step ahead of the game. And today is the day when you will learn the same!
You will learn how to accentuate both your internal and external qualities and present yourself as a guy who knows what he wants and what he’s doing.
As a guy who is confident in his own body!
Being an average looking guy, you’ve probably been focusing too much on how you can change your appearance or your personality.
But, the trick is not in changing. You don’t need to look flawlessly perfect in order to attract a hot woman out there.
All you need to do is boost and accentuate both your internal and external qualities that you already have, and learn to present yourself as a gentleman who exhibits confidence with every word, action, your body language, and similar.
Remember that you already have all of this inside you. It’s just that you need to wake up that average looking guy, and tell him it’s time to step up his game!
And this is how you’ll do it!
INTERNAL QUALITIES: BUILD UP YOUR OWN CHARACTER AND ACCENTUATE YOUR PERSONALITY
It’s important to mention that internal qualities are more important than external qualities because you attract and keep a woman with your personality, sense of humor, and confidence.
So, make sure to pay special attention to these and soon you will become a magnet for all the beautiful, hot women out there!
1. Focus on your passion(s)
It’s universally acknowledged that women are crazy about guys who are driven by their passion (or passions), regardless of whether you belong to the category of beautiful people or average-looking people.
So, finding something you’re passionate about and devoting your time to it will make you ten times more attractive and appealing to every damn girl out there (trust me because I’m a girl, so I’m speaking on behalf of other girls).
Passion is the essence of human beings, and there’s something truly special about a guy who is artistically inclined or crazy about that one hobby he can’t imagine his life without.
Just think of Ed Sheeran and his famous, heart-melting song, “Perfect”. You have no idea how many women have imagined that he wrote it for them because they wanted to feel special.
And, trust me, if you were the one who wrote that song for some hot chick you dig, she would fall for you real hard just as if you were Sheeran yourself.
Now, don’t get me wrong and think that you need to start guitar lessons ASAP if you want to improve your love life.
No, you just need to find something that you’re good at, something that you really enjoy doing, and present it to her in some way.
You need to let her know that you have something you’re passionate about and this could be gaming, programming, singing, playing an instrument—you name it.
You can post some “passionate pictures” on your social media. You can write her a song, or help her if she needs your assistance when it comes to fixing her laptop or similar.
She will be mesmerized with how thoughtful and inspiring you are, and this is exactly how you win any beautiful, hot girl out there, regardless of whether you’re a 20 or 40 year-old average looking guy or 20 or 40 year old attractive guy!
2. Humor is your best friend
There’s a reason why so many men—and people in general—pay attention to a person’s sense of humor and accentuate the need to nourish this appealing quality of being amusing or comic.
And the reason is positive vibrations, not taking life too seriously, being relaxed, being smart. It means knowing how to find the bright side in everything you do.
Just think about it this way: Imagine that someone is giving you a lecture in a dull, uninteresting way, making you half asleep and bored to death.
Now, imagine someone who is overly optimistic, who knows how to crack a few jokes here and there, and who knows how to get your attention.
I don’t even have to ask whom would you choose between the two, right?
Well, the same thing goes with girls and the rest of population as well. We all want to absorb information in a fun way.
We all want to be in the company of people who are positive, who are humorous, and who know how to make the best of the situation. And beautiful, hot girls want that to!
Now, I don’t mean that you need to learn thousands of jokes on the Internet by heart.
No, you don’t because this would only make you look like you have no idea what you’re doing or why you’re doing it.
You can always joke on your account or tell something funny about the current situation. You can always retell your past events in a funny way that will make her cry from all that laughter.
And while she’s laughing her a** off, her brain will subconsciously memorize that she enjoys your company A LOT, and she will want more of it.
And that’s why, my friend, humor is your best friend!
3. Be thoughtful and pay attention to details
No matter how independent and powerful they seem, all women still enjoy being taken care of. They want to feel special, and they want a guy who is thoughtful and reliable.
It’s in their nature, and they can’t fight it no matter how hard they try.
Women want a guy who is capable of recognizing their needs and acting accordingly. They want a guy who will always pay attention to details because details mean the world to them.
All hot guys know that, and it’s time you learn that, too!
So, if you notice that she’s changed her hairstyle or her hair color, complement her and tell her how beautiful she looks and that this hair color accentuates her eyes perfectly.
If you notice that she’s feeling down, ask her what’s wrong, listen to her, and comfort her. And remember that you don’t need to solve her problems!
In 99% of cases, women just need someone to listen to them (speaking from experience), so there’s no need to go out of your way and instantly start organizing an attack on the root of her problem like her co-worker or someone else.
Just listen to her, and you’ll be just fine!
Pay special attention to her body language as well. If her arms are crossed, it means she’s a little bit reserved because she doesn’t feel that comfortable.
In that case, try to relax her with a little bit of your unique humor. If she’s avoiding eye contact, it might mean that she’s bored, and you need to change the topic.
Details, details, details…
Just as humor, details are your best friends as well. You need to always be on track with her wishes, needs, desires, and you’ll know how to act accordingly.
That way you’ll always be one step ahead of the game.
Think of it like chess. In order to win, you need to know your opponent’s moves in advance, and you need to do everything in your power to fill the gaps and convince them that your moves are more confident, more powerful, and more dominant.
So, imagine that you’re playing chess, and she’s watching you. Imagine that you need to convince her that you’re exactly what she needs!
4. Believe that you’re special
You’re probably familiar with the fact that all the girls today want someone special.
They want to feel special, they want someone special, and they want everything that has something to do with special. Why?
Because no one likes ordinary. Ordinary is dull. Ordinary is not interesting. Period.
And that’s why, my friend, you need to believe that you’re special (even if you don’t feel that way).
Because if you believe that you’re one of a kind and that you’re unique, then you will truly become special in everyone’s eyes around you (and not just hers).
Now, exhibiting your special side has nothing to do with playing hard to get, boasting or similar.
All of these are a big no-no. You need to do it in a subtle way instead! You need to be confident enough to talk about the weirdest hobbies on the planet or something else that will catch her attention.
You need to be you!
You need to be proud of both your every achievement and your every failure so far. You need to show her your gentle side.
You need to convince her that you’re a perfect combination of strong and sensitive. because macho bulls*it is not special but being who you are is totally special!
You need to believe that you’re irreplaceable because you are. Lord knows that there’s not another person like you in the world.
You’re one of a kind, so make sure to exhibit all of your unique traits and make sure to show her how special you truly are!
And she will be more than happy to be a part of your world because your world is not dull or ordinary. Your world is a fun place to be!
EXTERNAL QUALITIES: DEVELOP YOUR OWN STYLE AND ACCENTUATE YOUR APPEARANCE
External qualities are something a woman notices about you first, but as soon as you open your mouth and approach her, they all go into second place and your internal qualities start prevailing.
But, when combined, external and internal qualities become a killer combination, and that’s why it’s important to pay attention to developing your own style and accentuating your appearance as well.
You want that woman to see how special you are inside out, and this is how you’ll do it!
1. Dress pleasing to the eye
The type of your clothes, the fact that they are clean clothes, and even the choice of colors all play great importance when it comes to making a first impression.
It’s true that you can’t judge a book by its color, but wanted or not, our clothes and hygiene indeed tell a lot about our character.
This is especially true when it comes to women because they notice everything.
Women pay more attention to details than men, and that’s why they’re literally able to tell everything about you by only observing you. And that’s where you come into the story!
If you want to leave a good impression on that beautiful, hot woman, you need to dress to impress!
But, don’t worry, this doesn’t mean that you need to take out a loan in order to be able to buy the most expensive clothes.
All you need to do is make sure that what you’re wearing is clean, that the colors match (at least to a certain degree), and that there are no bad odors or any kind of weird smells (because women are allergic to that).
You want her to see that you know how to take care of yourself and that you’re paying attention to details every time you’re about to go to town or somewhere else.
You want her to see that you’re neatly dressed because that’s one of the number one signs of every true gentleman!
2. Create your own image
Remember that part about believing that you’re special? Well, you need to incorporate that idea into dressing as well.
One of the easiest ways to show her that you don’t care about following the crowd and you have your own beliefs and principles is by developing your own, unique style.
You can find ideas in the latest magazines, but don’t ever try to look exactly like a model on a runaway.
The easiest thing a man can do is to spend a large amount of money on something that’s considered popular or trending, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that it will fit him.
Every man needs to find his own niche, his own style that will tell the girl: “This is who I am! I am a gamer; I am a businessman; I am an artist; I love rock’n’roll; I love metal; I love pop…”
Just think of character Elliot Alderson in that popular series, Mr. Robot. All he ever wears is the same black hoodie, the same black pants, and the same black Converse shoes.
And still he manages to look mysteriously unique in the eyes of every girl out there. He still manages to gain respect from the masses of people because he’s built up his own style.
And you can do the same. You don’t need a lot of money to succeed in creating your own image. All you need is creativity and thinking about how you can match your personality with clothes.
3. Accentuate your best features and hide imperfections
The biggest mistake that many men and women are guilty of is not knowing how to accentuate their best features or hide their imperfections.
Once you learn to do that, you will be the master of wardrobe!
So, if you have at least one part of your body that is muscular (that’s usually arms and torso), you want that hot chick to notice it!
You want to tell her: Hey, I’m sweating my a*s off at the gym lately! I’m determined, disciplined, and confident.
Well-fitting pants will help your legs seem longer which is good for those suffering from “short legs syndrome”, and darker shades of clothes will make you look more fit— aka less obese.
There are numerous pieces of advice on the Internet about this, so feel free to check them out if there’s something you’re interested in specifically.
4. Stay simple but notable
And another big mistake that many men and women are guilty of is trying too much.
When we really like someone, I mean when we’re really crazy about that one person, it comes natural to us to spend a whole week or a month in front of a mirror trying to find the perfect combo that will impress them.
That desire to be noticed and liked by those we admire is so strong that sometimes it forces us to overdo the whole dressing part.
So, always keep in mind that less is more! Don’t mix tons of different patterns, colors, or materials.
Choose two to three colors max per outfit. Subtle patterns are preferred, and don’t wear screaming or fluorescent colors EVER (no matter how much you were desperate for her to notice you).
If you do this, she will definitely notice you, but you will not make a good impression for sure.
You want to stay simple but notable. You want to say a lot by saying less. You want to be bold but casual.
You want to be a thoughtful gentleman with character!
You want her to notice that you know how to take care of yourself, that you pay attention to details, that you have passions and hobbies, that you enjoy life, and that you’re feeling confident in your own skin!
You want to be perceived as a thoughtful gentleman with character and not just an average looking guy because you are so much more than that!
You have great potential regardless of your looks, and the sooner you realize that, the better.
You can have any beautiful, hot girl you want. All you need to do is BELIEVE.