It’s not always a good thing…
Warning: you could be a people-pleaser. When your friends need to go to the airport at 4 AM, are you the one person they know will take them or are you the only one you know who is still friends with kids they went to grade school with?
It’s not a bad thing to be a people-pleaser… unless it makes you do things you don’t really want to do or act in ways that aren’t in your best interest.
Here’s how to tell if you’re a people-pleaser, according to your zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
As a people-pleaser, you may feel as if no one appreciates what you do for them and you can become passive-aggressive. If you don’t tell people how you feel, you could end up feeling resentful and angry.
TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)
You’d much rather hurt yourself than somebody else. Instead of going by your gut feelings about what’s best for you, you make decisions based on how it will affect your friends and family. You’re way too considerate of other people. It’s not just good manners and being polite, it’s that you’re intensely respectful of others.
GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)
You can’t help it but you apologize for almost everything. You know it’s not always your fault; in fact, it’s rarely your fault. But somewhere along the line you got into the habit of saying you’re sorry. It’s as if you’re responsible for every negative thing that happens in the world and that’s a lot of pressure to put on yourself. There are some things that you shouldn’t be sorry for and you need to get out of the apology habit; it makes them less meaningful.
CANCER (June 21 – July 22)
The best thing you can do as a people-pleaser is to put yourself on the top of your list and make sure that you practice self-care. Speak up, let other people help you, and most importantly learn how to say no.
LEO (July 23 – August 22)
You appreciate the fact that you have a lot of people who admire and look up to you, so you tend to put a lot of energy towards making them feel fulfilled and happy. You rarely have me-time and as much as you adore the spotlight, you don’t take advantage of it by constantly pushing your own agenda. You’re a leader in every sense of the word and you put your follower’s needs above your own.
VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
You overthink and over-analyze everything but especially your own behavior and how it affects others. You always make sure that when you do something for someone, you do it the way that they want; and when it’s done, you did it the way they wanted it done. You hate to make a mistake, especially one that could have repercussions for someone else and you’ll make sure that know everything about a project before it’s done.
LIBRA (September 23 – October 22)
The problem is that when you are so busy doing things for other people, you neglect your own needs. Since a people-pleaser can’t say no, they can end up exhausted by doing for others. Many people-pleasers don’t take care of themselves because they’re too consumed by the needs of everybody else.
SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)
It’s difficult for you to let go of past situations that you knew would go badly, but you did anyway because someone asked you to do it. You get angry when people take advantage of you and don’t appreciate it, but you rarely confront them about it. Usually, you just seethe in private.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21)
You live for making other people laugh and making them feel happy. You’ve been accused of being weak because you care so much. You try not to let the haters get under your skin and bring you down. You want to do whatever you can to make the world a better place.
CAPRICORN (December 22 – January 19)
When anyone has a problem, they come to you to fix it and you always do. If your boss needs you to finish a project by the next morning, you’ll work on it all night if you must because you can’t stand to disappoint anyone. Sometimes it can feel like a burden to be everyone’s guardian angel but you can’t help it — it’s just the way you are.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18):
You want to be liked and are willing to do almost anything for the approval of others.You are much more than nice because what they do for other people goes beyond niceness.
PISCES (February 19 – March 20)
You feel fears of rejection and failure involved with people-pleasing. If you don’t do a task that someone asks you to do, they may no longer like you. If you fail to do something properly and/or you make a mistake, then again you may be judged and rejected. There’s also the chance if you do something incorrectly that you may be on the receiving end of harsh criticism which can cause anxiety and stress.