You have probably already heard of the NSA relationship (aka No Strings Attached) and I might assume that you don’t think well about this sort of arrangement. You probably consider life to be too short for “meaningless” relationships, those without depth or commitment.
But let me tell you that there are rules that you can follow in an NSA relationship that can actually make you happy. That an NSA relationship can turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you, if you play it smart and right, and that today, it is perfectly normal to be involved in relationships like this.
Don’t get me wrong – it is perfectly acceptable if you don’t consider yourself the NSA relationship type. You might get too attached too fast and you don’t want to risk falling in love with someone who is only temporary. Or you simply can’t separate s** from your emotions, which makes you’re an all or nothing kind of person.
Either way, the type of a relationship you’re looking for and feel comfortable in is your choice only and nobody has the right to judge you for respecting and appreciating your own personal boundaries. However, before you give up on NSA relationships without even giving it a real shot, think about it realistically – about its pros and cons and about its worst and best case scenario.
Of course, an NSA relationship won’t make you happy unless that is what you really want. Remember that this is not a type of relationship you should enter into just to please the other side – both partners should be aware of what they’re getting themselves into and both should really want this type of relationship. Any other way of being a part of an NSA relationship is unfair and it puts you in an emotionally submissive position, because you’re hoping for a change that won’t come, while simultaneously settling for breadcrumbs of someone’s attention.
However, it is completely different if you consider yourself cut out for an NSA relationship, but you avoid it because you think it’s not appropriate or right. If you put away all of your prejudices and fears about what others might think of you and your morals, you’ll understand that you should definitely try an NSA relationship –it might just change your view on love and relationships in general. Don’t think that I am going to leave it at that, though, as I’m going to give you a few good reasons for trying out an NSA relationship:
1. It’s something new
Yes, my first argument is that it’s something new. We have been consumed by the idea that only one type of relationship actually works, but that is actually far from the truth.
In fact, people around the world live the happiest moments of their lives in unconventional relationships most of us could never imagine ourselves being in. But we never stop and ask ourselves why we chain ourselves in these imaginary societal norms.
Why can’t we get out of the box and out of our comfort zone? Is living life by the book something you truly are satisfied about? Or are you afraid of being judged?
If you look at your life up to now honestly, the truth is that you haven’t had the chance to actually engage yourself in something new like this. You might not even know it, but deep down, you probably feel like you’re more than ready for a relationship that is all about fun and both-sided pleasure.
2. It’s good to have a break from the dating scene
Let’s face it – modern dating isn’t always all fun and games. In fact, in most cases, it can get quite tiresome and exhausting.
Yes, all of us want to look for our perfect match. However, there are times when this search drains you both emotionally and physically to the point that you need a break from the dating pool, otherwise you’re going to snap. After so many heartbreaks and so many misunderstandings, you being confused with your emotions and so on, this is finally the right time to take a break and try out something that is out of your comfort zone. You have to let your heart heal properly and, for a change, let it breathe.
I know that this is best achieved by taking care of yourself, but you will get to the point where you will crave human affection, even if you haven’t healed properly. For that same reason, an NSA relationship would be the best choice.
Of course, being single has its awesome sides, but the truth is that in most cases, it can keep you happy and satisfied only up to a certain point. Sooner or later, your desire for someone’s presence in your life, for physical touch and intimacy, grows.
This is where most people usually make mistakes – when they think that this craving for human affection is actually a desire for a serious relationship and a sign that they’re ready for it. However, I’m positive that you’ll know better – that you’ll realize that your wounded soul is still not ready for commitment and that an NSA relationship is just the thing for you.
3. You can be completely honest about what you want
One of the biggest advantages of a NSA relationship is the fact that you have the chance to be completely honest with your partner at all times. There is no need for playing mind games or walking on eggshells around them – you speak your mind, whether they like it or not.
When it comes to real relationships, there is always a small fear creeping inside you when you have to face your partner and tell him that his behavior is bothering you and what you want him to do instead. In an NSA relationship, this isn’t the case.
It’s not that you don’t care about the other person’s feelings and that you’ll intentionally want to hurt them, but the truth is that your needs are number one priority. You want to make this experience as enjoyable as possible for you and you’ll do everything in your power to make it happen.
In order for this to work, you have to communicate whatever it is that you want and need from this relationship and that’s exactly why it’s so easy to be upfront and honest about what is lacking, if anything. For example, if you want more s**, you come forward and say so. And if you need more space, come clean about it.
Don’t be afraid of appearing as too desperate for wanting to set some ground rules in this relationship or for looking for your own benefit. On the contrary, your partner will only see you as mature enough to communicate your way into getting what you want and that is nothing but a plus for you.
4. You have more time for yourself
Another reason you should at least think about trying an NSA relationship is the fact that it gives you an opportunity to focus on yourself more. Now you have the chance to redirect all of the energy and time you would normally spend on your partner on yourself.
No, don’t worry, there is nothing selfish about putting yourself first. The truth is that we’re extremely busy people and commitment just adds to our already-busy schedule.
In an NSA relationship, you have the full liberty to adjust it to suit yourself and your own time. If you’ve had a busy week, no one is going to get mad at you for canceling plans you made. Or if you both have a couple of hours free and you end up meeting up, then that’s totally fine, too.
NSA relationships really are flexible and leave you much more time to work on your career, spend it with your friends and family, or just relax and take a nap – whatever makes you happy. The bottom line is that you’re not obligated to rearrange your schedule according to someone else’s, nor should you feel guilty when you can’t make room in your life for your partner. That is the beauty of an NSA relationship.
5. You don’t have to explain yourself to others if you end it
In my opinion, the worst part about breaking up is when everyone starts asking me why and how we broke up, making it only more painful and harder for me to deal with it. But when you end an NSA relationship, there shouldn’t be a problem with this. No strings were attached and whenever someone asks you why you split, you just say that it wasn’t anything serious or that you were just “s** buddies’.”
Besides, in most cases, your friends and family won’t even know about your NSA relationship. It’s not that you should be ashamed of your choices, it’s just that you’re aware that this person won’t stick around, so what’s the point of introducing them to all of your loved ones?
6. Ending it is easy
Or at least it should be easy. When you set the rule that you two won’t engage emotionally in your relationship and that you are going to break it off as soon as one of you starts feeling something more, then breaking up this relationship won’t be that hard at all. I know that you two will probably make a lot of wonderful memories, but that doesn’t mean that you should feel sorry for leaving them. NSA is there to make pleasure easy.
When one of you decides to call it quits, there is no resentment or grudges. No heartbreaks, no need for closure, no emotional baggage… nothing more than a clean cut.
And the best part is that you can always stay on friendly terms with your exafter you decide to end your NSA relationship. After all, neither of you hurt or damaged each other.
7. An NSA relationship is way more sustainable
For some reason, an NSA relationship lasts longer than a normal relationship with real emotions and attachment. It’s because you have a certain set of rules at the beginning of the relationship and you both agree on physical pleasure only.
Besides, when there are no emotions in the mix, you can’t be as easily insulted or hurt. You obviously like this person a lot, but their opinions, words, and actions can’t bother or offend you to the point where you’ll break things off with them.
Isn’t it amazing? You two can literally be apart for months and still f*ck when you see each other, without asking any questions or making excuses. It’s that simple.
8. You pick up valuable relationship experience
Besides all of these advantages of a NSA relationship, the best thing about it is without doubt the fact that this kind of relationships actually teaches you a lot. It provides you with a new experience regarding the opposite s** and romance, and it gives you a chance to learn a lot of valuable relationship lessons.
A NSA relationship can help you realize what is it that you want from life. Are you ready for commitment? Or would you rather remain single?
What type of person can you picture beside you? What is it that you want and don’t want from a relationship? These are all things you’ll probably be clueless about in the beginning of a NSA relationship, but I assure you that, once you end it, you’ll have all the answers figured out.
9. You get all the upsides of a relationship without any downsides
What is especially great about an NSA relationship is that it’s a romance and a relationship minus the hassle of relationship problems. Sounds like a fairytale, right? Well, because it can be – if you just play your cards right.
When you’re in an NSA relationship, you have someone to cuddle with, someone to go out on dates with, and someone to sleep with. However, you don’t have someone nagging at you for not giving them enough attention or being jealous because you’ve heard from your ex.
Basically, a NSA relationship is a win-win situation. You just have to be smart enough to use it to your best advantage.