Men are usually thrilled about falling in love but none of them will admit it. They all, deep inside, crave love and affection like we do. The only difference is that we are willing to talk about it while they will act uninterested when they actually really, really want to have someone by their side to love.
Sometimes, his fear of commitment can lead you on a wrong path. You may just give up on him because you think he is not that into you. He is not showing emotions, he is probably even very nervous around you. Well, that doesn’t necessarily mean that he doesn’t have the hots for you. It can be the complete opposite. He does have the hots but he is scared to fall in love.
Here is how you’ll definitely know he is just chickening out and needs a little push because he likes you but is afraid to admit it.
1. He’ll send you all kinds of mixed signals
You’ll go crazy trying to interpret his messages. You see, he himself doesn’t know how to act and that’s why he is acting so weird. One moment he is into you and the next he is nowhere to be found. He is confused because he likes you but for some reason, he is scared to act on it.
Maybe he had a broken heart before, maybe he was never lucky in a relationship and now he doesn’t want the same old story to repeat itself, so he is acting that way.
2. You haven’t met his parents
He is keeping you in the dark because he doesn’t know what he wants. Usually, when a guy is in love, he will introduce his new girlfriend, the love of his life, to all the important people in his life, including his friends and of course his family. They are the most important part of his life and if you want approval, you have to go through his family.
It isn’t that he is ashamed of you or anything like that so he hasn’t introduced you to them yet, it’s just that he knows it’s a big step to take. He knows there is no going back from there. What would happen if you broke up is that his parents would drive him crazy with questions like, “Where did that nice girl disappear to, why aren’t you together, what did you do?” and so on. Since he is still overwhelmed with everything new going on in his life, you, he needs a bit of time to process things and get rid of his fear.
3. He is in no hurry
He wants to take things slow and practically keep it light. Well, this means he likes you but (and there is always a but) he is probably not ready to be with you for real. He definitely has some unresolved issues that life has thrown at him and he needs to deal with them.
Don’t assume right away that he doesn’t like you if he spends time with you and he enjoys your company but he keeps you at arm’s length. Leave him alone and go on living your life. If he realizes with time that he has loved you all this time, great, if not, you’ll get by fine without him.
4. He is there when you need him
Although you’re not together, he will always be there for you when you need a helping hand. He will be there as a friend when you need to move out, to have someone help you carry your stuff, or when you’re in a trouble and you need someone to get you out of it.
He will always be there to give you his support. Real friends do that but men who secretly love you do that too. He’ll stick around when there is no one else left. That’s how you’ll know he likes you but is scared to fall for you.
5. He remembers the small stuff
Only people who deeply care for someone will remember the small stuff, stuff that no one else cares about. He is one of those people. He will remember your cat’s name, where your sister goes to school or pretty much all those trivial things that no one remembers.
When you’re sick, he’ll come over and bring you soup. This shows that he is interested in you, as these small details that no one notices is what separates him from the others.
6. He gets a bit jealous when you talk about other guys
He doesn’t have to show you exactly what he is jealous about, he will never tell you that, but you’ll see from the way he behaves. You’ll see that he’ll change the subject if you’re talking about your guy friends, or he’ll get nervous and he won’t be able to control his feelings or reactions.
This is kind of cute as long as it’s harmless and as long as it doesn’t put you in danger. Jealousy can be a bitch and it’s hard to get rid of it but if the guy you’re hanging out with starts getting just a bit jealous only because you’re talking about other guys, then you have to be aware that he is afraid of losing you and he likes you but doesn’t know how to deal with it.
7. He is overprotective
He will go out of his way to keep you safe. You know how some things in life are really logical? For example, it would be more than logical to let you walk a tiny distance to your car alone rather than to go with you. Well, when a man is in love, logic disappears.
He will do things instantly, the way his heart tells him and not his mind. All rationality will be gone. He will walk you to your car even though there is nothing that could harm you while walking such a small distance. But a man in love only sees you and fears you might get hurt and wants to be there to protect you.