Reading the same book all over again might be fun once or twice, but eventually, you get bored of it. There might appear something new that you’ve missed on the previous reading, but the concept is the same. Just like your ex.
Your ex-hasn’t changed—everything he does, he doesn’t do it because he is looking to get back together with you. He isn’t a better person. He hasn’t changed. He hardly will. There is nothing new to find out about him. All the things he does, he does to lure you into his trap.
If he does these 6 things, he has one final goal and that’s to get your attention and make it harder for you to get over him.
1. Hanging with your friends.
Friends are one of the essential parts of your life, and he’s trying to get along with them in order to get to you. The easiest way to get to you is to make your friends convinced that he still has feelings for you. He is counting on them to mention him in front of you. He’s hoping you’ll see him on their pictures, and his job is done.
2. Acting like you’re still together.
When he comes to you with this talk about something totally random, he isn’t being polite—it’s far from that. Don’t be naive, and don’t let him trick you. If he keeps behaving the same around you now that you’re no longer together, it means he’s counting that you’ll have the same feelings as when you were together and that it will stop you from seeing somebody else.
3. Dedicating his social media posts to you.
Just because he writes something that is dedicated to you, it doesn’t mean he wants you back. Your ex is trying to send you a message, and he wants you to think he still has feelings for you. Unfortunately, this act is just one of his tools to keep you single and hoping you two still have a chance to get back together when in reality, he’s just stopping you from moving on before he does.
4. Showing up at the places where you’re most likely to be.
You seem to be bumping into your ex now, more than when you were dating. The reason for this is that he wants to make an appearance, and he’s always making sure he looks flawless just for you. Of course, he’s not having a serious relationship in this plan because he would’ve straightforwardly asked you out. He’s just making sure you know how good he looks and that you still stay attached to him.
5. Constantly checking up on you.
How often do you get one of those texts, “Hey, what have you been up to lately?” and “Hey, I just wanted to check how you’ve been and how you’re doing?”? If you think he’s truly worried about you, think about when was the last time he asked you something like this while you were dating?
He might seem caring now, but don’t let that trick you. It might be just one of his ways to keep your feelings warm towards him.
6. Visiting your social media.
Just because he likes 7 pictures in a row or that he saw each and every story you posted online since you’ve broken up doesn’t mean he wants you back. There is a high probability that he’s just checking to spot a new guy and to throw dirt all over him.
The reality is that your ex doesn’t want you to get over him before he gets over you. He wants to be the first one to continue with his life because everybody knows that the person that is the last one to move on is the one that still cares for the ex. He doesn’t want to be the person that still has feelings for his ex and to see you moving on before he does would ruin his ego. That’s why he’s still in your life.
He’s trying to make your transition harder than it would usually be. He’s prolonging it as much as he can because he wants your attention, and he’d hate to see you with somebody else.
The bottom line here is that you’re in charge. If you don’t want him back, if you don’t want to have anything to do with him, you’ll completely shut him out of your life. Instead of finding excuses to delete him from your future, you’ll find a way to make him leave you alone.