Let’s take a look at her life and see what a respectable wife looks like.
“Let the wife see that she respects her husband”
— EPHESIANS 5:33
“Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land”
— PROVERBS 31: 23
Scripture has called us to respect our husbands, but notice how the Scripture talks about her respect for her husband: “let the wife see”
Respect is not just a thought/feeling we have towards our husbands. We’re supposed to show it so that our husbands and those around us can see that. But how do you do that? Looking at the life of the Proverbs 31 lady, I’ve gathered 5 things you can do to be a respectable wife.
THE PREREQUISITES TO A RESPECTABLE WIFE
Dress Modestly – It is hard to define modesty as it looks a little different for everyone. But I will say that a good way to judge is by asking yourself: are you dressing attractively or are you dressing to attract? It is also a good idea to ask a trusted friend who dresses modestly herself; ask her about the clothes you wear and if she thinks they’re immodest.
Open Your Mouth with Wisdom – The Proverbs 31 lady portrayed this beautifully. A part of why she is such an admirable and respectable lady is because she spoke wisely. She understood that there was a time to speak and a time to stay silent. She knew what to say and what not to say. She was not hasty with her words but she was careful and spoke eloquently. If this is an area of struggle for you, I encourage you to study the book of Proverbs – it talks a lot about the wisdom of words. I also have a Speak Life Challenge to help you build your husband up with your words.
“She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”
— PROVERBS 31:26
Talk To and About Your Husband Respectfully – Have you ever met a woman who talks brashly about her husband? What was your initial impression on this woman? Did you find her respectable? Probably not. Every marriage has its challenges, but talking to and about your husband rudely will only bring disrespect to both you and your husband.
Work with a Willing and Joyful Heart – We see it throughout Proverbs 31. Not only did the lady work hard, she worked with a willing and joyful heart. She was not lazy; she was not complaining; she was not bitter about the kind of work she was doing. Having a joyful heart applies to both stay-at-home-moms and women who work outside of the home. Working with your whole heart for the glory of God is a godly and respectable character that we should seek to grow in.
“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.”
— COLOSSIANS 3:23
Her Heart is Home-Driven – When you read Proverbs 31, you see this lady who is a wife, a mom, and a business owner. She loves and serves selflessly for her family and for those in need in her community. With all that she does, you can see where her heart is – her home. What she does centers around the home which has earned her respect in her town.
I have loved learning from Proverbs 31. It is such an important passage for women of God to learn what biblical womanhood looks like and how to apply it in their own lives.