Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is, without a doubt, one of the worst things you’ll ever feel.
You feel miserable and there is a constant battle going on between your pride and the desire to chase this person and give it another shot in winning him over.
Experiencing unrequited love is never easy. Besides being heartbroken by the realization that the man you love so deeply doesn’t care for you, this also brings about many insecurities and self-doubts.
If you’ve ever been in this kind of situation, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
You see all of this as the end of the world and you can’t help but wonder why can’t you be enough for this guy.
Well, we’re here to give you these 5 reminders which will help you get out of this as unharmed as possible.
1. It’s his right
As much as this fact hurts, the harsh truth is that people have the right not to love you or like you back. And this guy is no exception.
On the other hand, you are the one who doesn’t have the right to hate him because of this.
Don’t blame him, don’t look for his flaws and have enough decency to accept the reality, even though it is painful.
All of this doesn’t make him a douchebag or a jerk—it just makes him a human being with a heart that doesn’t take orders from anyone.
What you have to understand is that you can’t force anyone to have feelings for you, just because you would want it that way.
The same way you can’t control your emotions and make yourself stop this person just like that, the same goes vice versa: he can’t make himself love you back.
After all, would you really want this man to be with you out of pity?
Would you be happy knowing that he agreed to give you a chance even though he doesn’t see you as girlfriend material?
Besides, this is probably not the last time you’ll be in this situation.
There will be some other men in your future who won’t give you back the love you expect to receive from them and that is all part of life.
2. You will get over it
Even though things probably don’t seem this way now, the fact is that you will forget all about this man sooner or later.
Yes, at this point, you see him as the love of your life and you’re convinced that you’ll spend an entire eternity crying over him.
Well, guess what? You won’t. In fact, in a few months, you’ll forget that he ever existed, you’ll move on with your life and you’ll be sorry for wasting so much energy on him.
Remember how they say that if something won’t matter in five years from now, it doesn’t deserve five minutes of your time.
And you and I both know that this guy won’t even be on your radar in the future.
You see, love is like a flower; it has to be watered and nourished in order for it to grow.
However, when you’re not getting any feedback, the love you’re feeling toward someone is slowly dying with each day that passes until it completely fades away.
Don’t get me wrong—I’m not trying to devalue your current emotions. Instead, this is just a reminder that you will get over him and that you will be better.
3. It doesn’t make you unlovable
When someone you deeply care for doesn’t give a damn about you, the first thing that goes through your mind is that you’re apparently unlovable.
After all, this is the man who saw the best of you and someone you gave your entire self to, so if he can’t love you, who else could?
Well, let me tell you something: this couldn’t be further from the truth.
No, you won’t end up alone and you won’t spend the rest of your life chasing men who can’t give you what you need just because one guy couldn’t love you back.
Yes, you might be damaged now but I promise you that your scars will go away and that your heart will heal.
I promise you that one day (and that day is closer than you might think), a guy who will give you his true, unconditional love will appear in your life.
When the time is right, you will meet a guy who will see all of your outer and inner beauty, a guy who will love you for who you are and who will never even think of making you feel this way.
You will run into a man who will see how much love and attention you deserve and who won’t go anywhere.
Most importantly—just because one man doesn’t love you, it doesn’t give you permission to stop loving yourself and it certainly shouldn’t be a reason for you to start seeing yourself through his eyes.
Remember: your relationship with yourself always comes first and it doesn’t depend on the way others perceive you, treat you or how they feel about you.
4. His feelings are not a reflection of your worth
Another thing that you must never forget is that one person’s perception of you is in no way a reflection of your value as a person, as a woman or as a potential girlfriend.
Just because this particular man failed to see everything you have to offer, it is not a sign that you should start questioning your worth.
So, don’t take his rejection so personally. It doesn’t mean that you’re not beautiful, attractive, smart or interesting enough, just because his heart didn’t grow fond of yours.
It just means he doesn’t see you that way.
Besides, there is always the possibility that objectively, this guy considers you to be an awesome girl but he simply can’t get himself to see you as his forever person.
In fact, even if he considers you not to be enough for him at the moment, that doesn’t devalue you in any way.
It doesn’t mean that all other men from your future will see you as unworthy or especially that you should see yourself this way.
5. You should be grateful
Instead of thinking this was the worst thing that could ever happen to you, be thankful for things turning out the way they did. Instead of cursing the day this man was born, appreciate his honesty.
Most importantly—instead of feeling sorry for yourself, consider yourself lucky.
After all, it is better for you to know where you stand.
The guy we’re talking about was sincere; he didn’t try leading you on, he didn’t give you false promises and he didn’t swear his eternal love for you one day just to backstab you the very next.
Nevertheless, even if all of this happened and even if he lied about loving you, it is great that you found out the truth in time.
You actually dodged a bullet here; you could have spent years next to this man, being certain about his emotions just to realize it was nothing but a deception.
Also, don’t forget to be thankful for all the lessons this experience taught you.
If you had never experienced unrequited love, you would have never known that some people are not meant to be, that everything happens for a reason and that you can never force emotions.
Also, you wouldn’t have learned how to recognize the signs that a guy doesn’t love you back and that is something that might come in handy in the future.