“I’ve never fallen in love right off the bat. I get scared to say I love you too soon because it means so much. It means you’re not seeing an end to things.”~ Leighton Meester
You push him away because you’re scared of getting hurt again. You are scared you’ll give everything you’ve got once again, but you’ll get nothing in return except a broken heart. You’re scared this new love might be too big of an investment.
But you know what? You have to gamble big to win big. You have to invest if you want to gain something from it. I know you’ve been gambling and losing too many times, but all you need is to win just once—maybe this is it.
You push him away because you think you don’t deserve him. Maybe you got used to being treated like s**t. Your last relationship was like that. That guy didn’t respect you and he definitely didn’t deserve you. All he did was destroy your self-worth and self-esteem.
Because of him, you doubt yourself. You think that you are the unlovable one. You think that you are not worthy of anyone’s love. But that’s far from the truth. He made you think like that. This guy you’re dating now is a gift sent from heaven. You truly deserve him.
Think of what you’ve been through and how much suffering and how many insults you took. Isn’t it about time you get something in return—some kind of a reward for being so strong, for enduring all the pain? Well, it is—and it’s him. You deserve him. Don’t push him away by thinking that you are not good enough.
You push him away because you’re insecure. You don’t know what you want. In this state you’re in—a vulnerable state—you are not up for making huge life decisions. It’s only natural that you feel more secure when someone else decides something for you. But, for the long run, that is not something you want.
Don’t let others control your life. Don’t let others tell you how to love and how to behave in a relationship. Because, if you do, that’s not you. Your partner is not dating you. He is dating people who make decisions for you—that is what pushes him away.
You push him away because the timing is not right. Maybe you weren’t ready to jump into a new relationship. Maybe you are deliberately pushing him away without even knowing it. Although your mind tells you’ve made the right call and you really want to be with him—it makes sense, it’s logical—your heart is not quite there yet. It is still stuck in the past.
If this is the case, don’t force it. You will only destroy his life and yours, too. If it’s not the right time, stop. Let your heart heal, so it can be able to love again—unconditionally.
You’re pushing him away because you’re scared he will leave you. You’re scared he is the same as all of them—as the one before him. You’re scared you’ll get attached easily and he is going to leave right at that moment when you let down your guard.
He is not. Once again, I tell you—take a risk.
Even though it’s hard to let love slap you in the face over and over again, one of those slaps will be the last one.