Breaking up is never easy but sadly, it is a part of life. And although the person left behind is usually in more pain, it doesn’t mean that breaking up isn’t tough for the one initiating it.
But sometimes, when a man wants to leave you, he will choose to do it using an empty phrase he’s heard somewhere along the way, because he thinks he’ll avoid hurting you.
Here are the 5 most common phrases guys use when breaking up and what each of them means.
1. „It’s not you, it’s me“
One of the most common phrases many men use when they want to break up with you is, “It’s not you, it’s me.” When a guy tells you this, he is acting like he is taking all the responsibility for the end of the relationship. But actually, he doesn’t do you any favors by breaking up like this.
This man simply doesn’t know how to break things off with you and doesn’t have a valid reason to do so. This way, he leaves you wondering what is really behind the break-up, because you know that this is not the real reason.
It is possible that he has stopped loving you or that he has found someone else but he apparently doesn’t have the guts to tell you this out loud, so he chooses an easier way out.
2. “I am not ready to commit”
There probably doesn’t exist a girl who hasn’t been told this sentence in her dating life. This phrase is usually said by players and men who don’t want to be monogamous.
Although it appears to be an honest thing to say because you know what not to expect from this guy, it is actually anything but that. If someone doesn’t want anything serious, he should be clear about it before starting a relationship. But this guy assumed that you would never have given him a chance if he had told you his real intentions, so he was just leading you on until he saw that you’d completely fallen for him.
Besides, when a guy tells you this, it is probable that he doesn’t want to end things for good. He still wants to keep you in his life but without any strings attached and he hopes this is an arrangement you’ll say yes to, because he knows you have strong feelings for him.
3. “You deserve better”
When a guy tells you that you deserve better than him, it can mean numerous things.
First of all, it is probably true. It is likely that he doesn’t treat you the way you should be treated and that is the last thing you deserve. But at the same time, he is telling you he doesn’t love you enough because he is aware of the fact that you deserve better but is not ready to make the effort to become the man you deserve.
So, he prefers to let you go and to walk away from you rather than to change his ways and that is more than enough for you to take the hint.
4. “I just want a break”
Sometimes, a guy won’t directly break up with you. Instead, he will tell you he just needs a break from the relationship. By doing this, this man consciously leaves all of his options open.
Although he may be honest and it is possible that he really does want a break, it is more likely that he got tired of being in a monogamous relationship and everything that this type of relationship brings.
Therefore, he wants to explore other options which may include other girls as well. But at the same time, he wants to keep you as his backup plan, in case he doesn’t like what is out there.
This way, he continues to live his life, while you are left hanging and waiting for him to make a final decision.
5. “I don’t have enough time for a relationship”
One of the first things that you need to remember when it comes to relationships is that where there is a will, there is also a way. Therefore, if a guy who is breaking up with you tells you he is doing it because he is too busy for a relationship, trust me—he is only making excuses.
When you truly care for someone, you will make time for them, no matter how busy you are. Everything else is bullshit. This guy’s feelings for you are obviously not as strong as you wish for them to be and that is the real reason why he refuses to make space for you in his life.