it’s not easy at all to continue living with a relationship.
The loss of a partner often has shattering physical, emotional and psychological consequences. This can be a time of unbearable loss and confusion. We feel sad, desperate, lonely and often angry. We feel like we have no reason to live.
The consequences of this loss are great, because as couples approach each other over time, their lives become more intertwined. This fact can not be pushed away so easily, you can only trust that fate knows better. Our personal and intimate connections directly affect many other aspects of our lives, so when that changes, everything else changes with it.
Although there is no “one- of-a-kind ” advice on how to get over a breakup , there are things you can do to help you through this painful time, to get you on the road to recovery. In addition, they can help you to be optimistic about the future again …
1. Take the time you need.
Although some people will tell you over and over again that you should start a new relationship as soon as possible after a separation, because you get over the ex better, that is certainly not so good for everyone. Sometimes it is much better to just spend some time and get emotionally back down before starting a new relationship.
The time you spend as a single and focus on yourself will give you the opportunity to gain clarity and introspection by advocating a more objective view of the relationship and, more importantly, of yourself.
It allows you to back off a bit, evaluate and decide if the new relationship is for you and if there is a way to protect yourself from the mistakes you made in previous relationships. And only time can give you the chance to find out. Consider time as your best friend, because your job is to make you the person you are destined to become.
2. Think about the situation in which you are.
If you think a little bit about the situation, you can answer questions like: What did you learn from the relationship? What did you lose? What would you do differently? Why did the relationship fail?
When a relationship ends, there’s always a way to grow, even if it does not look that way in the beginning. The time you take to analyze the situation will help you make progress.
When a relationship ends, we think, how should it continue? Where do I see myself? What have I learned? What would I do differently? What do I have to do to continue my life?
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Some people realize during this process that there are positive aspects of separation, such as relief, freedom, empowerment, and optimism for the future. Take the opportunity and allow yourself to open a life that you did not believe could be possible.
3. Do not think about your ex-boyfriend anymore.
Remove this man from your social networks. Stop following him on Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat or Instagram. Delete the pictures, emails and messages he has written to you. Give or sell the things you got from him.
Yes, it is painful and I know how hard it is to do this because you do not want to erase every memory of this part of your life, it means everything to you too much. But that is precisely why it is so important to take this step because it forces you to look forward and start the new phase of your life.
I always find it amazing what people keep in their cell phones and how often they look at the shared images long after the breakup. And listen to the sad love songs that literally rip their hearts with every note.
Just think about how painful it must be to look at these pictures and how these messages hold you in the past, rather than looking to the future. Why are you torturing yourself? Some people do not want to delete their ex-boyfriends from the social networks because they think that this person might one day come back to them.
4. Pamper yourself.
Explore new things, read books, travel to the places you’ve always wanted to see. Expand your knowledge. Discover a new hobby. Meet with friends. Be open to new things, people and experiences. Do what’s good for you.
5. Accept all changes.
Do not think that it will be easy to get over a relationship. Because it will be anything but easy! But that does not mean that you have to spend every minute of your life thinking about your ex.
Accept the fact that you will feel as if you are going to hell and back again, but over time this way will always be easier. And remember that there are positive sides to your separation, such as relief, freedom, empowerment and optimism for the future. Therefore never give up!
We all will have many relationships in our lives until the right partner comes, with whom we will spend the rest of our lives. But until then, you should understand that the failure of a relationship is painful, but it is very important how we handle it, how we grow and how we get over the partner.
We can not get stuck on one side just because we liked it. We have to read the next chapter and all those who will follow it. When you’re done with the book, you take a new one.
Each end is also a new beginning. This is a way to find a new love. It allows you to believe more in yourself, to overcome your lovesickness, and to know that love will undoubtedly reappear.
But throughout this phase, it is important that you be loving to yourself, have good habits, and always keep in mind that this time will pass.