When you get cheated on, it’s easy to lose perspective. And not only that—you also lose yourself.
You feel like you don’t know what to do and like you need the guidance of someone who has experienced something similar.
The pain you are feeling often leads you in the wrong direction, making you do some things which bring you even more harm.
And that is why I’m about to give you some guidelines about how to behave after you get cheated on.
But I won’t be telling you about the things you should do. Instead, I will tell you about all the common mistakes most people make in these situations, so that you don’t make them yourself.
1. Pretend it didn’t happen
Being cheated on is, without a doubt, a horrible thing to experience. And it is never an easy thing to accept.
That’s why sadly, many people choose to pretend like their partner didn’t have an affair.
They pretend that all of this never happened, thinking all the pain will magically go away if they act this way.
But trust me—this is one of the worst things you can do if you get cheated on.
The pain won’t go away and you acting like nothing happened won’t change your situation.
This approach can seem easier for you at first but eventually, everything that happened to you will get to you. And when it does, the pain will be much worse.
So instead of trying to run away from your problems, be brave enough to face them.
I am not going to lie to you—it will be anything but easy. But it’s the only way for you to recover from the things you’ve experienced.
2. Think about what other people will say
Another mistake most people make when they get cheated on is that they focus on their surroundings and other’s opinions instead of focusing on themselves and their feelings.
Remember, you are allowed to be in pain. You are allowed to cry and to take some time to process everything.
Remember, you are the only who gets to decide what you want to do with your life.
That means that you are the only one who has the right to choose between forgiving your partner and walking away from this relationship.
And nobody has the right to judge your decision, whatever it is. Because nobody has walked a mile in your shoes and nobody ever will.
So if you want to forgive your partner, stop thinking about people considering you as weak.
And if you want to leave them, stop thinking about people who will judge your decision, telling you that you should have given them another chance.
3. Blame yourself
Another thing that you should never do when you get cheated on is blame yourself for your partner cheating on you.
When this happens to you, the natural thing is for you to try and think things through. You try to remember where things went wrong and if there was a way for this not to happen.
And although there is nothing wrong with that, this doesn’t mean that you are to blame for someone cheating on you.
Because trust me—you are not, no matter the circumstances. And you should never allow anyone to try to tell you differently.
You need to remember that your partner consciously chose to cheat on you and there was nothing you could have done to prevent this.
The same goes with not discovering their affair earlier. You might think that you were foolish for not seeing something that was going on right in front of you.
But this is also not your fault. And it is definitely not something you should be ashamed of.
The only person who should be ashamed in this situation is the person who had the affair.
4. Think it’s the end of the world
Being cheated on is anything but easy. It has a devastating impact on your emotions, your heart, your reason, your ego and your self-esteem.
But as much as you think of this to be the end of the world, trust me—it’s not.
I know you are hurt and disappointed. I know you are insecure and that you think you’ll never regain your trust in people.
But time really does heal all wounds. And it will heal yours as well.