The question has always been out there: do soulmates really exist? And it’s a question that may never be answered. Some people believe that anyone could be your soulmate if it’s the right timing and situation. While other people believe that there is one person out there for everyone that meets every need you could possibly have.
Whether you believe in the soulmate or not, there are definite signs that come up in a partnership that can guide you in seeing whether you have met your match. This includes little cues that you may have already noticed in your partner. But it can also be the way you feel with them, and your interactions both before and after becoming a couple.
Do you think you may have already met your soulmate? Experts suggest there are ways that you can tell whether you have already met yours or whether he may still be out there. There is no need to settle for someone who isn’t your perfect match. And who knows, your soulmate may still be out there.
When it comes to finding love, you never want to settle when you can have everything that you’ve ever wanted. Check out these 20 signs you may have found your soulmate, and can finally stop looking.
20-Your Paths Have Crossed Before
Have you ever met someone that you started dating and then you realized that you knew them from before whether it was someone you went to school with or you lived on the same block growing up?
There’s a good chance that’s your soulmate.
One Lifehack user said, “Soulmates have met each other at a previous time. You may not have connected, but you were in the same place, at the same time. Before my husband and I met, we lived across the street from each other and worked across the street from each other. Yet we never met until the time was right.”
19-You Just Have That Feeling He’s The One
It’s true that some people just know when they have found “the one.” It’s a feeling that you have deep inside that you don’t have to look any further. And you might not be able to explain it, but that doesn’t make it any less real. Relationship coach Nicolas Aujula said, “Call it ‘love at first sight’ or just a moment of intuition, a lot of people know when they’ve found ‘the one.’ If you feel comfortable, energized and intimate with someone even though you’ve only just met them, there’s a good chance the relationship will go the distance.”
18-You Can Literally Do Anything With Him And Have Fun
We’re not talking about all the normal fun things that you do together. We are talking about the people who manage to do mundane tasks together but still have a ball with each other.
If the two of you can manage to go to the grocery store or pharmacy together and have the best time ever, then it’s safe to say that you’re soulmates.
Tasks like doing your taxes and running errands are usually a drag, but with the right person, they can have a bit of magic, too. That’s not to say you have to be overjoyed every moment, but you should be able to find fun in the little things.
17-You Respect Each Other To The Fullest Extent
Respect goes a long way in relationships and it can make or break you. Aujula said that having mutual respect in a relationship is a sign that you have found the one. “Relationships often fall apart when the two people try to change each other. Soul mates, however, accept one another (flaws and all) and when they step back, see a partner they are very proud to be with. They don’t want to change each other, so they tend to be less critical of each other, even when they disagree. They want to be the best partner possible to support the person that you are.”
16-It Was Just The Perfect Timing For Your Connection
Timing is everything when it comes to meeting your soulmate, and one Lifehack user had the exact experience.
Moral of the story? Don’t push it, and it will happen when the time is right.
“Each person has to be ready to receive the soul connection. Even though my husband and I were in close proximity of each other for many years, we did not meet until the time was right for both of us. You have to be prepared to meet your soulmate. It could be that you have to go through a relationship that doesn’t work out, or that you’re not ready to ditch your “perfect person checklist,” but when it comes to soulmates- timing is everything.”
15-Your Favorite Version Of Him Is In Sweatpants
We can all appreciate our partners when they are all dressed up and looking handsome for an event. But that’s rarely our favorite “look.” You can probably see for yourself that you are with the right person when your favorite look is when he’s sitting in a ratty old t-shirt or a pair of sweatpants looking incredibly attractive. It’s that comfortable part of the two of you that you love, and being comfy together is your favorite experience, so why wouldn’t you find your man positively hunky even without getting all dressed up for you?
14-You Guys Are Always On The Same Page With The Big Stuff
You’re not always going to agree on everything, but true soulmates tend to align when it comes to the big, important things.
Compromise is healthy in a relationship, but true soulmates won’t need much of it to make their partnership work.
Aujula said, “Soul mates don’t agree on everything. However, when it comes to the most important things in life like your values, goals, core beliefs, and priorities, you are totally on the same page. Soul mates tend to see the world through the same lens which makes their connection so much deeper because they understand one another.”
13-You Can Feel Each Other’s Pain
When you have found your soulmate, you will know it because you will start to feel the experiences that your partner goes through. You can understand the person and be able to walk in their shoes. If he’s had a bad day, you can likely see that the moment he walks in the door. That’s because you know him so well. You can feel each other’s pain because you can feel each other’s feelings. You share the stress and sadness in the same way that you share joy and happiness, and that’s a reflection of your deep connection.
12-You Nurture And Support Each Other
Support is super important in a relationship and you will likely know that you are with your soulmate because you feel nurtured in all the right ways. No matter how small, your partner will help you feel good about whatever it is you’re doing.
You might be with your soulmate if you know he supports you in everything you do.
Aujula said, “Soulmates celebrate each other’s successes and help each other when the going gets tough. Soulmates are always rooting for each other and are proud to support their partner in everything they do. Soul mates can help support you to great heights of personal and professional success.”
11-You Know For A Fact That He’s Your Best Friend
There are lots of couples in the world who love their partners but wouldn’t consider them their best friends. The truly special couples in the world are the ones that have partners who are their best friend. Anjula said, “Soulmates just ‘get’ each other. They can understand each other on a very deep level, even if they’ve only known each other for a short amount of time. If you find someone who very quickly becomes your number one support, your partner-in-crime, and the first person you text when you have good or bad news, there’s a good chance that you’ve met your soulmate.”
10-You Are Comfortable With Difficult Conversations
When you are dating your soulmate, you feel comfortable talking to him about just about anything. We have all dated someone in the past who we were afraid to have big conversations with, but you would never feel that way with a soulmate.
Sitting your partner down to have a difficult conversation can be a challenge.
Having to make hard decisions can make some couples uncomfortable. But if you are with your soul mate, you know that no matter what you will be able to get through any tough situation. Therefore, having serious talks doesn’t make you nervous.
9-You Share The Same Vision For Your Future
It’s important to have the same vision for your future that way one partner isn’t disappointed by the life that they wind up with. On this topic, Aujula said, “You should share the same key values and want the same sort of things out of life, otherwise resentment grows, and the relationship begins to sour. To share a life that you both love, you first have to agree on what that life will look like.” That’s something that is important to do before things get serious. Couples should also recognize that if they differ on big issues, like whether or not to have kids or where to live, that’s a sign you’re not soul mates.
8-You Challenge Each Other Regularly
Relationships can become boring and stale if you are with someone that does not challenge you.
Your soulmate will always be that person that pushes you to be better, so them wanting the best for you is a good sign you’re with your true love.
Aujula said, “This can be challenging because it will mean that the two of you are often encouraging one another to move out of your comfort zones. The unique combination of challenge and support provided by a soul mate is a major catalyst for personal growth—and in the future, you’re sure to be grateful to each other for all the encouragement.”
7-You Have Many Methods To Secretly Communicate
Yes, we are talking about those long looks from across the room. But there are many different ways of connecting without words that prove that you two are connecting on a different and more meaningful level. One Thought Catalog user said, “Your PDA is relatively nonexistent. At this point, you have so much more fun with smirks across the table while sharing an inside joke, private smiles or goofy faces when you make eye contact across the room at a party, and any other communication you have in public that is shared only between the two of you.”
6-Your Private Time Is Off The Charts
When you have a deep soul connection with someone that usually means that your alone time together is pretty amazing.
Compatible partners are compatible in every way, not just in terms of compromise and communication.
Aujula said, “’Because they have such a deep connection, [closeness] between soulmates is destined to be unlike anything that either of them has ever experienced. ‘Soulmates’ profound love for each other combined with their ability, to be honest, and vulnerable creates a level of chemistry that is off the charts.” Of course, this is something that you probably even knew before reading this article.
5-You Aren’t Threatened By Other People
When you are truly with your soulmate you will find that you no longer have those jealous rages when another woman is in the room. You have no reason to feel threatened by anyone else because you know that you and your partner complement each other in ways that no one else can. No other woman is going to be able to complete your man in the same way that you do, but he’s also not looking because he realizes you’re his other half. You will find a new sense of peace with the man that you are meant to be with.
4-You Both Fight For Your Relationship
When you are both willing to work to make sure that nothing ever separates you, that turns you into a very special team.
After all, a commitment to one another is the key to a meaningful and deep union for soulmates.
Aujula said, “No matter how deep your connection, soulmates will inevitably run into bumps in the road – whether it be difficulties with family members, illnesses or financial troubles. True soulmates find ways to fight together in order to make things better because you’ll both want the relationship to survive more than you’ll want to defend your own egos.”
3-You Feel Most Comfortable When You Are With Him
Being comfortable with someone is a huge sign that tells you that you are with someone who’s good for you, possibly even perfect. Being real and totally yourself is the highlight of a true soulmate situation, even if it means being raw and honest. Aujula agreed, “You feel so comfortable around each other from the start. Even in the emotional whirlwind of falling in love, soulmates will find that they’ve never felt more secure in opening up to someone and showing their true self. Soulmates delight in each other’s little quirks and feel great empathy for each other’s flaws and vulnerability.”
2-Time Apart Doesn’t Bother You
We all know that time part is healthy for couples even though we sometimes don’t like it.
Soulmates don’t feel threatened by time apart, so it doesn’t bother them.
Aujula said, “Soulmates are able to strike the right balance between time together and time apart. They trust each other and still feel close when they’re doing separate things, rather than being consumed with jealousy or anxiety. They are able to let each other do what’s best for their individual lives yet at the same time also know that you’re happiest and more fulfilled when you’re enjoying quality time as a couple.”
1-You Respect His Differing Opinions
Having a soulmate doesn’t mean that you will agree with whatever he says, but true soulmates can respect the differing opinion coming from their partner. Overall, though, the bottom line is maintaining respect. One Lifehack user said, “You know you have different opinions. Often soulmates are the polar opposite. At times this is challenging. These are the times when you are being forced to let the other person complete you. You still have your own opinion, but instead of agreeing to disagree, there is a deep level of respect for each other. You listen and honor the differences.