Dating isn’t always easy and sometimes we can feel completely clueless during the process. There are times when we feel like we have no idea where our relationships are going. There is that grey area where we have no idea if our guy likes us enough to want to be in a committed relationship with us. How do we know?
There are times when dating revolves around lust, and that never goes anywhere. While other times, dating can lead to meeting the man of your dreams. Dating sucks sometimes because just when we think things are going well, the guy we are dating starts to show no interest. It’s a fickle game. There are things that your man will do if he is smitten over you and there are also things that he will do if he has no idea if he wants to commit to you. It’s not as hard to figure out as you may think. Here are 15 things he’ll do in the first month of dating to show he’s totally smitten over you (and 5 that show he’s still undecided).
20-Smitten: He Looks At You Like It’s Christmas Morning
There is a certain look that a guy gets when he adores you and you’ve probably even seen it by now. You can tell when a guy is really into you and when he’s not quite sure. If a guy is looking at you like he is seeing sunshine for the first time, then chances are he is totally smitten over you. He may be acting like he can’t believe how lucky he is and that’s a very good sign for you.
19-Smitten: He Starts to Talk About Serious Things
When a guy wants to be with you, he will let you know. If he is vague about the future, then he’s probably not talking about the future at all.
“Men who are interested in dating in a serious way will start talking about serious things. If he starts talking about where he is in life, what his goals are, his future…men who are interested in getting married will definitely talk about getting married.
They will qualify you right away because they don’t want to waste their time,” says Lauren Frances a relationship expert.
18-Smitten: He Remembers Everything You Say
It may even start to freak you out how much he remembers. Guys who are genuinely interested in you will pay attention to the things you talk about. He will mention to you that your favorite band is in town because he heard you talk about it. If he remembers that your favorite soda is sold at the convenience store his house, then you can bet that he’s pretty smitten over you. He can remember everything from your favorite color to your favorite book.
17-Unsure: He Doesn’t Always Respond To Texts
When a guy is unsure of your relationship, he will act like he doesn’t care. He can act like he’s hot one minute and cold the next. For the most part, we know our guy has his phone on him at all times, just like we do. So, if he doesn’t want to answer your texts all the time, it may be because he’s not sure if he wants to continue the relationship. It can also be annoying. One minute he’s texting you on the regular and then the next we don’t hear from him for a whole day.
16-Smitten: He Deleted His Online Profile
Hallelujah, right? That’s a great sign when your guy gets rid of his dating app. Maybe the two of you met on Tinder and are just taking things slow. The day a guy decides that he’s off the market, he will get rid of all his apps. He may also talk to you about getting off the apps as well if you haven’t already. The important point here is that he’s obviously into you. He wants to focus on you and that’s the best news ever.
15-Smitten: He Wants To Do the Same Things As You Do
We’re not talking about hobbies, though he will probably want to get involved with them as well. We’re talking about the weird stuff you do. He may start to mimic your unusual sense of humor or the fact that you are sarcastic when you talk about politics.
He is falling all over himself to impress you and part of that is to mimic some of the things that you do.
Maybe you will even start to make fart jokes just like he does, but probably not.
14-Smitten: He Wants To See You All the Time
When a guy is smitten, then he wants to spend as much time with you as possible. Lauren Frances says,
“Men will start ramping up their displays of courtship for you over the next few dates if they get really excited about you. He’s going to hopefully be texting you, emailing you, and trying to lock you down for another date.
He’ll be stepping up his romantic gestures. If you met at a bar on the first date, what I want to see is that he’s taking you out to dinner or planning something more extravagant for the second or third date.”
13-Unsure: Sometimes He Cancels Plans
It sucks when a guy plays hot and cold because it leaves you wondering if the relationship is even going anywhere. When a guy is unsure of you in, he will be off and on which means he’s going to be super romantic on some dates while others, he may completely cancel on you. It will make you start wondering how important you are to him. The truth is you deserve to be with a guy who would never think of canceling on you.
12-Smitten: He’s Very Attentive
When a guy is smitten over you, he uses every means of communication to let you know he’s thinking of you. A Glamour user posted,
“For me, it’s little things. I have such an insane schedule that there are just so few ways I can be a good boyfriend.
I can’t plan trips. Dinners are iffy at best. So I find ways to show that I am thinking of a woman. Notes. Calls or texts when I have a free moment. It sounds self-involved, but I’m so busy that if I’m paying you attention at all, it means I like you.”
11-Smitten: He Will Go Wherever You Want Him To
When a guy is really into you, he generally will want to spend a lot of time with you. That means when you invite him out, he’s probably going to make sure that he is there every single time. He’s not going to cancel plans or tell you that he’s too busy to go out with you. Even if it’s an event with your friends (friends he doesn’t like), he’s going to be there because he really likes you.
10-Smitten: He Is Comfortable Moving At Your Pace
When a guy is into you, he won’t be giving you a hard time about commitment. If you want “girlfriend” status, then you are likely to get it as soon as you want it if he’s smitten. Maybe you aren’t ready for a relationship or even to be physical with each other. If that’s the case, he is likely to take things slow with you and wait for you. He won’t rush you because he doesn’t want to upset you and risk losing you.
9-Unsure: He’s Not Exclusive With You
If a guy is still playing the field, then he hasn’t made any permanent decisions about you. He is likely still treading water in the relationship to see how he feels. In the meantime, he’s going to continue dating other women just in case he finds someone better than you. If you aren’t cool with that, then it’s time you move on. It’s best to find out where you stand immediately instead of letting him date multiple people.
8-Smitten: You Always Know Where He Is
A guy who is smitten with you will not leave you guessing. He won’t play games with you. If you ask him where he is, he will give you an honest answer.
If he tells you he’s going to be somewhere, he will be there. If he tells you he’s meeting you somewhere, he will be there.
He won’t disappear on you and he will likely respond every time that you send him a message. There are no guessing games with this guy.
7-Smitten: He Always Makes Eye Contact
You can tell that a guy is really into you by the way he makes eye contact with you. You will find him looking at you a lot.
“When you’re introduced, they’ll look directly into your eyes with a level of intensity that makes your heart aware,”
relationship expert and author, Cindee Bartholomew says. “They will often continue to stare at you even after you look away and when you look again at them they will smile again.” Doesn’t that just make your heart melt?
6-Smitten: He Is Always Curious About You
When a guy is smitten, he will always be smiling around you and his eyes are usually wider than normal. He has a natural curiosity about everything that has to do with you. Kimia Mansoor, Professional Matchmaker at Tawkify says, “They’ll [observe] you carefully to try to learn as much as possible,” Mansoor says.
“They want to know more about you but might be too nervous to ask just yet.
They might seem quiet, shy, or reserved, but they are listening and paying attention to all the little details.”
5-Unsure: He Doesn’t Want To Talk About Making Things Official
A guy who is unsure about the relationship will keep putting off “the talk.” He will state that the two of you can discuss it at a later date but then not bring it up again.
You might be ready for a relationship, but he might be stalling every chance that he gets. You keep bringing it up, but he never gives you the response you are looking for.
He keeps putting you off and saying that you can discuss it more in the future. If he can’t define things for you, then you might want to move on.
4-Smitten: He Keeps Emphasizing How Similar You Are
A guy that really likes you will want to point out to you how similar you both are in the hopes that you will recognize that he is your soulmate.
“If someone thinks you’re special, they’ll want to showcase how similar they are to you or how they can empathize with you,”
Samantha Campbell, Professional Matchmaker at Tawkify says. He will make connections with you in just about anything. “Whether it’s conscious or not, they’re trying to say, ‘Hey, I get you,’ and hoping that you feel the connection, too,” she says.
3-Smitten: He Laughs At Your Jokes
He’s smitten with you so obviously he’s going to think that anything that comes out of your mouth is the best joke that he’s ever heard. It’s actually really sweet for a guy to think you’re super fun to be with. If the two of you can laugh together, that’s a great sign for your relationship. Marriage therapist, Kimberly Hershenson says,
“If [they] already find you funny early on, they likely think you’re special.”
Laughing together will also get you through the inevitable tough times of your relationship.
2-Smitten: You Won’t Have To Fight For His Attention
A guy who wants you is going to make you feel like you are the only girl on the planet. He won’t make you fight for his attention or make you feel uncomfortable around other girls. He will focus his attention on you and only you.
“They don’t want to talk to anyone else,”
Hershenson says. “If they were around you the entire time and didn’t bother to meet other people or strike up a conversation with anyone else, it’s a sign they think you’re special.”
1-Unsure: He Doesn’t Invite You To Events
Does your guy mention parties and events but then doesn’t bother to invite you to them? It might be because he’s just not that into you. It may also mean he’s leaving his options open for someone else. Regardless, it’s not a good sign if a guy is treating you that way. It’s not cool for him to get you pumped about a party and then not take you to it. Not to mention, you are likely to wonder who he is with and whether he is having more fun without you.