What would you do if you recognize the signs your husband doesn’t love you anymore, especially if you’ve been with him for a long time, if you two have kids, and if you thought you’d grow old with him?
I would say that both women and men have their own ways to get over a divorce, but since women are more sensitive, they suffer more than men.
I know it’d be great to be with the same person you are married to until the day you die, but unfortunately, that’s not always possible.
Sometimes it happens that you end up being married and after a while of what you thought was a sure thing, you start asking yourself, “Does he even love me?”
There are a lot of factors that contribute to divorces and lack of love, but you should know that if you really care about someone, there are no problems that you can’t get over.
Actually, “Never give up that easily” is the best relationship advice I can give you.
I know many women who are aware of the fact that their men don’t love them anymore, even after years of marriage, but still, they all keep living with them like everything’s completely okay.
This is just denying reality, and a marriage like this is doomed from the moment it stopped being a real relationship.
Also, there are a lot of guys who are unfaithful to their women, but for some reason, their women still want to be with them.
Sometimes women stay with guys who don’t love them because of their beautiful children, financial status, or because they’ve grown used to them. In some cases, marriages fall apart because of poor s.. life.
But those aren’t good reasons why you should put up with something that is killing you slowly.
I present you some of the most common warning signs that made these women come to the important realization: “He doesn’t love me anymore!” So read carefully!
1. He doesn’t communicate with you much
If your husband has stopped communicating with you and you feel that something’s amiss, it’s a sign that he is slowly falling out of love with you.
I know some of you will say that lack of communication doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you, but a woman’s gut is something you should never neglect, because in 99.99% of cases, it’s correct.
If you notice that the two of you just keep quiet in the house while you’re doing your thing and he’s doing his, that’s just a signal of the beginning of the relationship problems.
To save your marriage, you can try to talk to him. In the end, if you don’t try, you’ll never know whether or not you could’ve done something about it.
If this is happening for the first time, my suggestion is not to be mean or anything, but tell him openly that you don’t feel good in a relationship without open communication. As a possible solution, ask him if he’s willing to work on it with you.
If he says he will try, you should respect that, but if he doesn’t give a damn about what you have to say, you know what your next step should be.
Although it’s easy to say to someone, “leave him,” it’s not that easy to actually do it. Even though you’re already brokenhearted and angry with disappointment, some warm feelings are still present.
So please, if this happens, cut the cord as soon as possible and try to keep your self-esteem.
2. He’s bored with you
It’s normal that in a long-term relationship there will be times when you’ll be bored with your spouse, and you just need to do some interesting things with him.
But if you see that your husband is bored only when he is with you and not when he’s doing his own thing, that’s a sign that something is terribly wrong.
Maybe there is another woman in his life and he is only thinking about her. Maybe he’s coming up with ways to meet her as soon as possible, and everything you say is boring to him.
Or perhaps there are problems he’s going through, but if he doesn’t talk to you and if you annoy him every time you say something, that’s not a good sign.
Sadly, based on what you’re reading, it seems that your relationship doesn’t have that much time left.
If this behavior continues over a long period, it is a bad sign that your husband doesn’t love you anymore.
You shouldn’t put up with this behavior because it’s not something you deserve. If you’re giving him all your love and affection and he shows complete disinterest in making you happy, a man like that is not worthy of being in your life.
Basically, the point is, it wouldn’t be much waste to kick him out of your life.
3. He fights with you all the time
If you can no longer have any normal conversation with him and he says that you are at fault for all the problems between you two, it’s likely that he has no problem in making you feel bad.
This is a serious red flag that maybe he doesn’t love you anymore.
You should check if this is something that will be present in your life for only a short time or if it will continue for longer.
Whatever you do, don’t let your happiness slip through your fingers. Instead, try to save your relationship by asking him about the reasons he feels that way.
If he still cares, he’ll be happy that you asked, and he will work on it. Getting help from a marriage counselor is a move that’s helped a lot of troubled couples who just needed a push toward a happier future.
But if he refuses to do anything about it, then he doesn’t feel anything about you, and it is time to dump him.
You should know that staying with a man like that will hurt you more than leaving him.
Staying with him will never heal your broken heart. By leaving him, on the other hand, there’s a chance for you to heal much faster than you thought.
You don’t deserve someone who will only pay attention to you when he’s in the mood, one who will ignore you every time you need him.
That is not what true love really is – don’t ever forget that. No matter how much you love him, show him that you will be okay on your own. Show him that you don’t need him to complete you.
4. He doesn’t put any effort into your relationship
For some time now, you are the only one who’s been putting some effort into your relationship. He doesn’t want to do anything nice for you, and he doesn’t even want to talk about it.
This is a sign of disrespect – something no woman should put up with. Disrespect is one of the strongest signals that point to an unhappy marriage.
If he doesn’t want to have a good life with you, tell him that you’re not the one who will bear all of the relationship responsibilities on your back.
Let him know this is his wake-up call, and if he doesn’t want to change, he can leave because you’ll feel much better on your own than with a toxic guy who doesn’t even give a damn about you. You have to think about your own well-being.
The point of every relationship is to have someone who will take care of you, love you, and go the extra mile for you.
But if that’s not what you’re getting, you better think twice if he is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.
You can break every relationship down to the basics – you’re holding hands or you’re not, meaning he’s there for you or he’s not. It’s that simple.
5. He’s cold and unavailable
Every time you try calling him on the phone, he’s unavailable. Every time someone else calls, he’s there.
What does that say to you? He just doesn’t love you anymore, and he’s probably going to be with you for only a little while longer.
Maybe divorce is something that isn’t good for his career, so he would rather play it safe and stay with you. Or it could be that he doesn’t want to be exposed to criticism by your family and friends.
Also, if he acts cold when he is with you, even if you try to talk to him and solve the problem, there’s something serious happening there.
If this continues to happen for a long time, he definitely doesn’t feel anything for you anymore. And it gets probably even more serious than you thought.
Not only does he not love you anymore, but he’s also probably already over you.
He’s just using you and doesn’t even want to make some effort for you or the relationship. Maybe he was in love with you before, but something changed.
On the other hand, maybe he never actually loved you, but he made you think he did.
It was something that he needed at that time, but he’s changed his opinion now. A guy who doesn’t know what he wants is not someone you need to be mixed up in.
6. He’s always out
When you love someone, you will want to spend a lot of time with them, but if you see your husband doesn’t do this like he used to, feel free to ask him what the reason is.
If your man doesn’t spend enough time with you or your kids, this is a huge red flag.
It means that he’d rather spend time with his friends and co-workers than with you, where it should be the opposite.
It is an indication that he doesn’t find you interesting anymore, that the two of you don’t have any good topics to talk about. What you can do is to talk to him openly.
Tell him that it’s okay if he lost interest, but that he should have let you know about that change.
Tell him that living like two complete strangers with someone you love is not what works for you and that you aren’t planning to play by his rules. If he doesn’t want to listen to you, pack your bags and leave.
Don’t cry over spilled milk. Move on with your life. There is someone special waiting for you out there.
7. He doesn’t want to have s..
Lack of physical intimacy is one of the most obvious signs that your husband doesn’t love you.
If he doesn’t want to be intimate with you, it means one of two things: either he has someone else to do that with or that he doesn’t find you attractive anymore.
Whatever the reason might be, the situation is definitely not good enough for a healthy relationship.
It’s important for him to understand that a woman needs to be intimate with the man she loves and that if he doesn’t give you what she needs, she’ll become distant. This in turn will eventually lead to the end of the relationship.
Maybe that is what he was planning from the outset, but if he really doesn’t want to be with you, he should be man enough to let you know about that.
I know things like this hurt, but if you still love him, you can try to win him back.
You can use some women’s tricks and invite him to bed, and thereby try to spice up your physical relationship. But if he doesn’t react very well to your tactic, it is time to say the final goodbye.
And you shouldn’t feel sorry if that happens. Sure, it will take time for you to recover and move on, but it will happen. You won’t be hurting forever.
8. He’s irritated when you speak
Whatever you say, it’s stupid to him. If you talk about your company and the great things that you’ve achieved at work and he still thinks it’s stupid, then your man doesn’t respect you.
Just imagine how he would feel if you did the same thing to him?
He’d probably leave you the second you told him that he was boring. You don’t deserve someone who will disrespect you like this.
You deserve a loving and caring man who’ll be your support. So, don’t let him belittle you just so he can feel okay.
He should know that the key to a great relationship is actually good communication and that you two should be open about everything.
Tell him that in case he is not in love with you anymore, he can move on and have a great life, but this time without you.
You shouldn’t be only one fighting for your relationship – it’s a two-way street.
9. You suspect he’s cheating on you
There are men who are prone to cheating, and they never change. So, if your guy never showed interest for other women and he does now, it’s time to face the fact that he’s changed and that he wants different things now.
If he is sending you mixed signals and most of them signal that he might be cheating on you, it’s probably the case.
Also, if you have evidence that reveals his infidelity, you should be worried. The thing is, women can sense when their men cheat on them. So if you think something isn’t right, it probably isn’t.
You can see it by his changed behavior, his indifference, his lack of communication, and in the end, his lack of love. If he doesn’t want to have s.. with you, it can be a subtle sign that he has found love in another place.
On the other hand, if he wants to have more s.. than usual, showing some new moves, that’s also cause for concern because he had to have learned them somewhere.
Try to get to the bottom of it, and if it does turn out that he’s being unfaithful, leave him as soon as possible. Don’t let him make a fool out of you; you don’t deserve that.
10. He takes you for granted
This is one of the most obvious signs that he doesn’t love you anymore. By just taking you for granted, he thinks that no matter what you do, you’ll always be there and put up with his crap.
He thinks that you love him and that you’ll forgive him for neglecting you all the time, while he gives all his attention to other women.
Remember, that’s not the way a man in love would behave in front of his partner, so make sure that you talk to him about the possible problem.
If he continues being rude and taking you for granted even more, you know what you need to do.
He won’t learn his lesson until you leave him and show him what it feels like to live without you. Show him that he can lose you in a second and that he’ll never be able to win you back after how he’s belittled you.
A man like this doesn’t deserve to have a woman like you in his life, so make sure to let him know that you can live without him. Trust me, your happiness will hurt him more than you think.
In the end, I just want you to know that you shouldn’t think it’s all your fault.
I am highlighting this, since many women believe they were at fault for the end of love. But that couldn’t be further from the truth – in most cases, the men were the ones who blew up things.
11. He demands a lot of space
Okay, everyone needs space. Everyone needs an hour or two during the day for themselves. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a daily activity, just when you feel the need to be alone for a while.
But when this “alone time” becomes more frequent than it used to be, if your man is gone for hours or even days, then it’s an alarming sign that he’s trying to escape your marriage.
You’ll notice this strange behavior right away, especially if you’d been spending a lot of time together before he started acting like this.
And in addition to the way he behaves, he’s going to make up some lame excuses as well, which will be obvious from the start.
Even when you manage to have some time with him, he’ll be completely disconnected. I mean, he’ll be present physically, but emotionally elsewhere.
In the end, you will lose the urge to spend time with him, because spending time with someone who obviously doesn’t want to be by your side only makes things worse.
Forcing quality time on him will only make the awkward situation between you even weirder.
After facing the sign indicating the lack of love in marriage, either try to engage your husband and get him to talk about what’s bothering him or, if that plan fails, leave for good and save yourself the trouble of trying to save what cannot be saved.
12. He criticizes you most of the time
It’s one thing when someone criticizes you to help you become better and stronger. That’s called constructive criticism.
There is nothing mean or harmful in that. Actually, you’ll have no problems discerning whether someone is criticizing you for your own good or just to hurt you.
If your husband is constantly up your business about things you cannot change, like your looks or your personality, and if he doesn’t let go even after telling him he’s hurting and insulting you, then his “benevolent” words are actually designed to undermine you.
It’s a common tactic that men who don’t have the guts to break something off on their own use to get you to leave first.
That’s how they can blame everything on you later on when you leave. They’ll say it’s not them, it’s you – you were the one who left, while no one actually knows what he did to you to get you to that point.
13. He looks at your relationship with jaundiced eyes
The moment your husband drops out from trying to solve problems, you know it’s over. When he no longer sees the point in fighting for your marriage, it’s already dead.
All men are natural problem solvers. When they see a problem, they try as hard as possible to find the solution.
They do this on a daily basis in their everyday life, which naturally includes you.
If he reaches the point where he’s sick and tired, and he has no strength to fight for your happiness, he’s probably thinking he doesn’t want to anymore, because… what’s the point?
He probably doesn’t even love you anymore, he just hasn’t admitted that to himself yet.
14. He doesn’t miss you
When partners don’t see each other for a while, the first time their eyes meet when they reunite can pretty much go hand in hand with the first time you noticed each other and fell in love.
That is love. You are equally happy to see your partner, whether you’ve been apart two days or two months.
If your husband acts indifferent when you return home from a couple of days long trip, then your relationship is under serious threat of falling apart.
Sometimes the signs are even more obvious that your husband was way happier when you weren’t around.
When you come back home, he is transparently unhappy that you’re back. If that’s not a good enough sign that he doesn’t love you, I don’t know what is.
15. You tread carefully around him
He used to be all kind and sweet to you, but as time passed, that beautiful feeling slowly vanished.
That is most definitely a sign he doesn’t love you anymore. Love cannot disappear with time. It can only grow stronger or change forms; it can never vanish.
But let’s go back to your relationship and how he suddenly treats you differently. Your little quirks are no longer cute to him.
Now he objects to your behavior and he always has something to say, some negative comment to deliver – in a way, subtly telling you to stop what you’re doing.
He’s a ticking time bomb, and to make things clear, he can’t put up with you anymore.
If you haven’t changed, if you’re acting precisely the same as at the beginning, then it’s not your fault.
It is he who’s making you change and walk around on eggshells not to accidentally say something wrong that’ll trigger his anger.
What to do if the signs are right?
First off, it’s important to realize that people change. While the man you are living with may have been all charming and sweet at the beginning of the relationship, he can transform into a completely different person over the years.
Just know that it is better if you find out that your husband doesn’t love you sooner rather than later, instead of being in that relationship for the rest of your life.
When you realize your marriage isn’t what it was supposed to be, it will be much easier to let go of it all and find your happiness elsewhere, without him.
Therefore, to save your marriage, talk to your husband first. Sit down like two adults and try to sort things out in a civilized fashion.
Then if you can’t reach consensus, try therapy. Maybe you need someone to help you communicate with each other in order to solve your problems.
If that doesn’t work either, then it’s done and dusted: go your separate ways.
Making the move is so much better than suffering for the rest of your life. This way you’ll definitely find happiness, even if you think you won’t.