Gaslighting is a malevolent mind game that allows narcissists to take full control of their victims. Although it is a manipulation technique most commonly used by narcissists, it is not limited to this type of human being and can occur in any situation.
While some people do it deliberately and deliberately, there are many cases in which the person playing this mind game does not even know that they are doing it, but sees it as a primary mechanism of building and maintaining a relationship.
Gaslighting is so subtle that when the effects manifest, the game has taken so deep roots that the damage is already serious. The victim is usually unaware of the danger it is in and is so hurt it starts to doubt itself and its perception.
If you are not sure if you are a victim of gaslighting, then read the following 12 characters that will enlighten you a bit.
12 signs that you are a victim of gaslighting in a relationship
1. You start to question and doubt everything about your perception.
If you are forced to re-evaluate everything you perceive and try to find similarities between the reality in front of your eyes and what your partner imposes on you, in the end you will question and doubt each of your conclusions about it, what happens in front of you.
We can all have gaps in our perception and misinterpret things, that’s normal, but be careful if only one person in your life makes you doubt your whole perception.
2. You doubt each of your movements.
Victims of gaslighting lose confidence so much that they begin questioning everything they do, whether it’s their looks or their abilities they’ve never questioned before. They feel insecure, even though everything seems to go as it should, even better than expected, and think that everything they do is wrong, because the manipulator’s influence tells them that they are not good enough.
3. You feel constantly confused.
The goal of Gaslighting is to lead you to the point where you do not know where you are in life and if you want to take further steps. It makes you feel confused, alone and desperate, and you think you have lost the meaning of life.
4. You think you are too sensitive.
Sensitivity is a wonderful thing, but not for a manipulator. He will see to it that you realize how sensitive you are to trivial things and how bad that is. Although you may not agree with this theory at first, the subtle mind-set he plays will make you believe that you are really too sensitive.
5. You suppress your emotions.
Perhaps one of the main weapons the manipulator will use in this game is to highlight your emotions as something negative and weak. This eventually causes you to suppress your feelings. The manipulator will even make you feel bad because you have certain feelings.
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6. You lose the ability to express your emotions.
As you are constantly struggling with which emotions are “normal” and “right” and which are “inappropriate” and “weak”, you begin to lose the ability to express any emotion. Instead, you begin to suppress your feelings and punish yourself for feeling that way.
7. You are always afraid that you are wrong.
During gaslighting, the manipulator will be responsible for highlighting your deficiencies and criticizing you. If you are wrong about something, you feel as if you have committed a terrible crime, so you start to fear your mistakes.
8. You stop doing certain things.
This constant fear of being wrong and making the “wrong decision” makes you want to do nothing at all. That’s why you rely on the manipulator’s decisions while you do nothing to change his bad behavior. You leave your partner in complete control of you and your life.
9. You are unsure all the time.
The manipulator will do anything to convince you that nothing you do is good enough, no matter how successful you are or how much effort you give yourself, he will never acknowledge it. If you know that you have to do something to avoid being criticized again, you will be afraid that he might get angry with you again for no reason.
10. You isolate yourself from people you care about.
The people who look after you will be the main target of the manipulator, who will make you think they want to use you and they are not good enough for you. The manipulator will make you think you are surrounded by enemies who want to destroy your perfect relationship.
11. You lose your self-confidence.
The self-esteem that you had before meeting this person has somehow disappeared. It has become a torment to work for yourself, so you slowly let your inner voice fade away while you see yourself as a worthless being.
12. You do not feel like a normal person.
When you look back at who you were and what you became, you feel completely disconnected from your true self. This lostness is perhaps the biggest damage gaslighting can do to a person. In this empty state, you are only capable of mourning the person you have lost, yourself.
But you can once again be the person you once were, by starting to believe in yourself more and recognize the gaslighting you are exposed to. You are worth so much more than you think you are now.
Remember, no mind game can make you lose yourself completely. You are there, just hiding behind a veil of illusions and manipulations. Never forget that! Discover yourself again and start loving yourself more. Nobody is worth bringing you to lose yourself.
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