The thing with dating self-involved people is that they are terrifyingly similar to narcissists. There is room only for their egos and they will use you as a human shield if necessary because they’re just too valuable and important to be harmed. They are also incredibly selfish and only care about their needs and wishes. Yours? Not so much.
While reading this, someone popped into your mind. It could be your ex-boyfriend, friend or coworker, but if the man you’re dating or even considering dating popped up in your mind, then it’s time for you to read the rest of the list and find out the truth!
1. Conversations are always about him
He dominates the conversation and has no problem in steering it towards himself. He’s so good at being the center of attention, you don’t usually understand what’s going on until you realize that you haven’t spoken a single word. And the ones you did were the ones that praised him. And even if you get the chance to speak, he gets all antsy and tries to switch the conversation topic as soon as possible.
2. He makes you wait
This isn’t just one-time thing. It happens constantly. He makes you wait for his texts, phone calls and dates. While you’re expected to always make time for him, he never does the same for you. I mean, how could he? His work and his success are so much more important than yours! Which leads us to the next sign.
3. Your relationship is full of double standards
If he stays late at work, that’s perfectly fine because he’s working on his career. If he goes away for the weekend with guys, that’s also fine. Because, he needs some time alone, you know? But God forbid you do the same! You’re instantly accused of cheating, drifting away and looking for a new boyfriend. Relationships filled with double standards are not healthy relationships. Period.
4. He treats a relationship like a competition
A real man is genuinely happy when his woman accomplishes something. Regardless of how small or big it is, he’s proud and makes sure she knows it. He makes sure that she knows she has his support and love. But the man who treats a relationship like a competition is not the kind of a man you want around in your life. When you accomplish something, he will either belittle it or rub it in your nose whenever he has a chance. And when he’s the one who succeeded, have no worries, you’ll be hearing all about it for as long as you’re there to listen.
5. He never thinks about your feelings
If he wants to do something, he will do it. Even if it’s flirting with other women so he can boost his ego, he’ll do it. He needed that boost, so for him it’s completely justified that he did it. And he doesn’t really care about you being hurt because he’s always the victim. And when it comes to decision -about his future, he never asks for your opinion, simply because he doesn’t plan on having you there.
6. Guilt-tripping master
Even when he’s the one who screwed up, and we’re talking like a huge screw up here, he finds a way to blame it on you. You’re the hurt one, trying to fight your tears and stay in one piece and still he manages to manipulate you into apologizing to him. If you noticed that pattern of your apologizing, even when he’s supposed to do it, leave him immediately. It’ll only get worse until you slowly start doubting your own mind.
7. You’re always doing what he wants
Even if you had other plans, he somehow convinces you into doing his idea. It’s not because you don’t care about what you do on your date night or the way you spend your time together. He just feels like doing things he likes and when you insist on doing something else, he throws a tantrum or cancels the date completely.
8. He’s selfish in the bedroom
Same like he’s selfish in every other aspect of his life, he’s selfish in the bedroom as well. He’s the kind of man who will get on top of you, do his thing for like forty seconds and roll over while grunting how good it was. And he will keep on bragging how he’s the best lover there ever existed. I mean, the guy who wrote Kamasutra is nothing compared to him. Yeah, right!
9. He’s just never to blame
A man who doesn’t take the blame, even when all of the evidence is pointing at him, is a borderline narcissist. How can he be the one to blame when everyone else is wrong and he’s right? It’s just because no one understands him, he’s that smart. A pile of crap, that’s what it is. Victim playing, guilt tripping and a shitload of excuses are his games. Honesty and modesty—not really.
10. He doesn’t know how to take criticism
He truly believes that he’s the best and smartest out there. He’s so self-involved that he doesn’t know how to take criticism, even when it’s constructive. Let’s say he has some drama at work and there is a much simpler way to handle things than the one he’s doing. But he just won’t hear it. How dare you tell him that he’s not doing a great job? Ditch that self-absorbed ass as soon as possible. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life!