Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve met a great guy but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship even though he’s regularly been taking you on fun dates and he seems interested?
You can really see a future together with him but every time you bring up the idea of you two being boyfriend and girlfriend, he stops you and he doesn’t want to hear anything about it. He says that he likes it the way it is and that he doesn’t want to commit to something serious because he’s not ready.
Thankfully, there is a way you can escape from the gray zone you’ve been stuck in for too long. So I’m giving you some tricks which you can use to make him commit to you in the blink of an eye.
1. Stop talking about commitment
First and foremost, you need to stop talking about it. Why? Because you’re putting pressure on him. No one likes pressure, because pressure leads to stress and who wants to be with a woman who stresses you out?
Maybe even when you stop talking about it he might think that you got over the whole idea of commitment, so he’ll ask himself eventually why it is like that and he’ll be thinking about commitment even more.
2. Put your needs first
Don’t invest too much of yourself in him. Make plans by yourself and make it look like it’s completely normal for you to stay a whole day in your room reading or watching movies.
He’ll crave your presence. Soon afterward, he will see how dedicated you are to yourself and he will want to be a part of that world, too.
3. Mention your ex
Don’t do this a huge amount but it’ll make your crush go out of his mind if you casually say that your ex has been texting you and wants to get back together with you or something in that manner.
Even if you have blocked your ex from all social media, it doesn’t hurt to play a mind game because it’ll make your crush want to be better than your ex, he’ll invest more energy into your relationship and he’ll want to be your boyfriend before you get back with your ex-just to show you how much of a better catch he is.
4. Keep your distance
When you like someone, it’s really easy to get carried away and be constantly in his presence. But don’t. Keep a healthy distance from him. Let him really miss you.
Let him ask himself where you are and with whom. He’ll realize that he misses you in his life and that he doesn’t want another guy to slip into yours. He wouldn’t want to miss his chance.
5. Be ‘the woman’ in his life
If this is done incorrectly it can scare him away from you, so listen closely. With this, I don’t mean to be constantly in his face and replace his mother – NO!
How you can do this right is to send him good morning and goodnight texts, maybe even at the same time every day just so he remembers it as a routine. And then?
Stop it. Stop for a couple of days and see what happens. He’s the one sending the messages every day now, right? It’ll be a part of his routine he doesn’t want to miss. What better way to make it consistent than to be in a relationship with you, right?
6. Reward him
If he does something sweet for you, something that made you feel special, always reward him because he’ll see that it’s easy to please you and that his efforts are appreciated.
These rewards don’t need to be some expensive gifts; a simple ‘thank you’ and a kiss on the cheek can do the job. You can hug him or make him pancakes, it’s really up to you. Just be invested and consistent.
7. Be nice to his friends
You know that men put a lot of effort into their friendships and if you don’t get along with his friends, your chances of becoming his girlfriend are non-existent.
If his friends like you, they’ll put in a good word about you and he’ll see how much they want you two to be together. So that’s when he will consider it automatically.
8. Become less interested
Keep this only to a certain extent as well because if you show no interest at all he might just walk away from you. But sometimes when he’s looking at you, take out your phone and smile for no reason, to make him ask himself what is going on and why you aren’t running around to obtain him and make him yours.
If you’re interested in a guy, it becomes very obvious and he can smell your desperation from a mile away, so make it a little less visible and it’ll be OK!
9. Make it fun
Don’t make him think that commitment is something that’s not for him, even more than he thinks now, with your clinginess and the need to control him. Just stop it.
Make it light and carefree and he will fall in love, not only with you, but with the whole idea of commitment. Bowling matches and little road trips with a lot of laughter will make it all look easy-going and he won’t have a problem with being in a committed relationship with you.
10. Keep the good work going
Lastly, if he asks you to be his girlfriend and you start a wonderful relationship together, don’t turn into a freak just days after you’ve obtained your goal. Why? Because you’ll make him regret his decision if you start controlling him and are constantly around him.
Have your own life and don’t be too attached to your partner because it’ll just scare him even more than it did before. Just chill and you’ll have a wonderful relationship.